Ep. 92 Inside Our 2-Day Couples Therapy Intensive with Dave | Me + Ryan

When Ryan and I posted about doing a 2-day couples therapy intensive, people literally started praying for us. 😂 And I get it. But here's the thing: We weren't falling apart. We went because we were ready to go deeper. And what happened in that room over those two days? It cracked us both wide open in ways I did not see coming. We sat with a therapist named Dave (the Universe keeps bringing that name back to me) who does something completely different from anything I've tried before. IFS, psychodrama, experiential therapy, all of it woven together. We're talking parts work, childhood drawings, standing on literal cards on the floor and trying to physically step into your own adult power. And watching Ryan stand there frozen for 30 minutes, unable to do it, I cried. Because I have been in that exact spot. I know what it costs to finally take that step. This one goes deep. We talk about the hidden parts of us that were built to protect old wounds, why your biggest superpower probably came from your deepest pain, and what it actually looks like to do real inner work when nothing is technically "wrong." 🥹 In this episode, we discuss: • What we learned during our two-day couples therapy intensive • How childhood experiences shape our adult relationships • Understanding Internal Family Systems (IFS) and parts work • Navigating perimenopause, aging, and learning to embrace change • The surprising connection between fear, perfectionism, and overwhelm • How greater self-awareness can create healthier, stronger relationships If you've ever wondered why you react the way you do, found yourself stuck in the same patterns, or felt like you're constantly chasing a better version of yourself, I hope this reminds you that healing isn't about becoming someone new. It's about finally understanding who you've always been, with a whole lot more compassion. I love you guys so much. Thanks for being here. ❤️ Here are the key moments from the episode: 00:00 The Couples Therapy Episode That Changed Everything 03:50 What Steve Jobs Knew About Decision Fatigue 07:46 Does Getting Your Period Actually Reset You Emotionally? 11:00 The DMs With a Stranger's Song That Made Heidi Break Down 14:07 The Botox Reel That Made Heidi Question Whether She'll Ever Stop Fighting Aging 18:11 What Hypnobabies Taught Her About Resisting the Things You Can't Control 25:11 15 Years of Therapists, Coaches & On-Site: What Actually Moved the Needle 33:00 Sensory Overload, a Misplaced Pillow, and Why the Room Almost Derailed the Whole Session 40:00 The Drawing Exercise That Forces You to See Exactly Where Your Patterns Were Born 44:08 She Said "Sad" But That Wasn't It. The Word That Finally Broke Through 47:07 The Financial Safety Wound You Didn't Know You Were Carrying (And Where It Really Starts) 51:00 Why Having More Money Will Never Make You Feel Safe, A Financial Advisor Explains 57:37 The Moment Ryan Couldn't Step Into His Own Power And What Was Standing in the Way 1:00:02 This Is Where Real Confidence and Internal Leadership Actually Come From 1:07:00 The Late-Night Breakdown That Proved the Therapy Was Already Working 1:11:00 What's Really Happening Behind the Highlight Reel, Heidi Gets Brutally Honest 1:19:01 Why Not Every Woman Wants to Be Heard, Some of Us Just Want the Solution 1:25:52 The Therapist Who Thought They Were There to Break Up (Funniest Ending) Connect with Heidi: Website: https://heidipowell.net/ Email: [email protected] Instagram: @realheidipowell Facebook: Heidi Powell YouTube: @RealHeidiPowell Train with Heidi on her Show Up App: https://www.showupfit.app/