Why It Feels Impossible To Put Yourself First - It's Not Selfish!

Ready to dive deeper? Book your first session with me here - https://calendly.com/heidi-gustafson/... Have you ever felt guilty or selfish when you prioritize yourself or ask for what you need? A viewer commented that she has a strong urge to put her adult children first, no matter what. And because of this, she's not living the life she wants. People pleasing and self sacrifice will never earn you the love you're hoping for. In this video I'm walking you through three shifts that have changed this for the women I work with, and why the "good girl" story you've been living may actually be keeping you stuck. This is NOT about boundaries. It's about something much deeper. Chapters: 00:00 Always putting others first? 00:29 Viewer comment 01:10 One-sided relationships 01:45 Client wasted 40 years keeping others happy 03:30 The pattern of outsourcing happiness 04:05 Why we put ourselves on the back burner 04:40 God - Others - Self 07:30 Did I wait too long? 08:00 The internal conflict 10:05 Beliefs create behaviors 11:50 Self Abandonment Alarm System 12:07 Shift 1 - Self sacrifice is not a gift 13:42 Shift 2 - Reframe guilt & selfishness 16:17 Shift 3 - Become an example 18:40 The identity death 19:09 Bloopers 🎧 Listen to my Podcast - Rated Top 5% Globally https://masteringmidlifewithheidi.buz... 🔔 Subscribe to my channel for more insights on mindset, self-care, and personal growth. Hit the notification bell so you never miss an update!