When Rock Bottom Is Best For Your Marriage

In 2022, Omar and Aubi Foster sat in a counselor's office asking the question no couple wants to ask: how did we get here? Seven years married, two kids, a thriving gym, and a marriage quietly falling apart. This is the story of how rock bottom became the best thing that ever happened to them. In this episode of Our House with The Smylies, the Fosters share how God restored their marriage after they nearly walked away. Aubi opens up about the "boss babe" lie, chasing corporate success while losing her family, and the moment she stopped fighting. Omar shares how seeking affirmation outside his marriage almost cost him everything, and what it took to finally lead his home. Then came the prayer that changed it all. They asked God to close doors so clearly they couldn't mess it up. Three days later, Aubi lost her six-figure job. What looked like disaster became the beginning of a completely new life: a God-centered marriage, homeschooling their kids, turning their gym into a ministry, and a family stronger than they ever thought possible. If your marriage feels stuck, distant, or close to over, this conversation is proof that the valley is where the fruit grows. WHAT WE COVER: The slow drift that almost ended their marriage (it's never one big thing) The counselor's office moment: "Do you want to fix this?" Why chasing career success left Aubi empty and stretched thin How Omar stepped up to lead his family, faith, and finances The prayer that cost Aubi her job 3 days later Selling his dream car to bring his wife home to their kids Chaos is not a lack of peace, it's a lack of order Surrendering their business and losing members because of their faith Their family values: Fosters love God, love people, do hard things, never quit Raising kids without TV or video games (and why) Practical first steps to bring peace into your home this week CHAPTERS: 00:00 - Bringing God to the Center of Your Home 01:26 - Meeting Omar and Abby Foster (CrossFit Social City) 02:56 - How High School Sweethearts Reconnected After 10 Years 05:33 - Hitting Rock Bottom: Marital Disconnection and the "Boss Babe" Lie 12:47 - The Turning Point: Shifting from Worldly Success to Biblical Order 14:05 - Reclaiming the Role of a Spiritual Leader and Provider 17:49 - The Power of Surrender: Losing Jobs and Selling Cars 24:14 - Walking with Your Kids: Generational Change and Personal Healing 27:38 - Strengthening Father-Son Bonds Through Running Marathons 31:15 - Learning to Move into the Valley and Giving Up Total Control 34:53 - Using Your Business as a Ministry for the Community 39:45 - Practical Faith Habits and Consistency for Busy Families 47:59 - Choosing a Screen-Free Home: Why the Fosters Ditched the TV 50:01 - Establishing Core Family Values That Last 53:17 - Teachable Moments: Biblical Discipline and Grace vs. Legalism 56:16 - One Piece of Advice: Daily Scripture and Practicing Gratitude 59:43 - Where to Find Omar and Abby Foster CONNECT WITH THE FOSTERS: Omar Foster:   / oldskoolomar   Aubi Foster:   / aubi   CrossFit Social City: https://www.instagram.com/ BOOKS & RESOURCES MENTIONED: Imagine Heaven by John Burke Bringing Up Boys / Bringing Up Girls by Dr. James Dobson Matthew 6:25-30 Soul Surfer (film) SUBSCRIBE for new episodes every week:    / @ourhousefaith   We're Jason and Malia Smylie. We've been married over 15 years, have 4 boys, and we help families bring God to the center of their home, their marriage, and their business. #ChristianMarriage #MarriageRestoration #GodCenteredHome #ChristianPodcast #MarriageAdvice #FaithAndFamily #ChristianParenting #OurHousePodcast