Understanding Human Sexuality | Episode 126 | Everything is Everything

The most complex part of human nature is our sexuality. What do we want? What do we lust for? Where did these instincts and feelings arise? WTF even? Welcome to Episode 126 of Everything is Everything, a weekly podcast hosted by Amit Varma and Ajay Shah. In this episode, Amit looks at the cutting-edge literature on the What and Why of human sexuality, using insights from evolution — and the revealed preferences of all of us. In other words, this episode is about YOU. As a prelude to this, please also watch EIE ep 125, Understanding Evolution:    • Understanding Evolution | Episode 125 | Ev...   Note: Amit and Ajay have launched their online course LIFE LESSONS. Click here to sign up: https://lifelessons.co.in/ TABLE OF CONTENTS:  00:00 Packaging 00:13 Intro: Life Lessons in Goa 05:48 Life Lessons Montage 06:28 Chapter 1: The What and Why of Human Sexuality 14:01 Chapter 2: Why Does This Matter? 20:00 Chapter 3: A Few Caveats 27:21 Chapter 4: Some Broad Learnings 33:13 Chapter 5: One Headline Finding 34:43 Chapter 6: Men Prefer Visual Cues 46:19 Chapter 7: Women Like Stories 52:18 Chapter 8: Psychological Arousal vs Physical Arousal 56:50 Chapter 9: Romance is the Porn for Women 1:06:22 Chapter 10: Some Interesting Observations OTHER USEFUL RESOURCES: 1. Amit on Twitter:   / amitvarma   2. Ajay on Twitter:   / ajay_shah   3. The Seen and the Unseen -- Amit's audio podcast: https://seenunseen.in/ (Also on all podcast apps. And YouTube, though less than 1% of listens come from here:    / @theseenandtheunseen  ) 4. Ajay's organisation, XKDR Forum, on YouTube:    / @xkdr   5. In Service of the Republic -- Vijay Kelkar & Ajay Shah: https://amzn.eu/d/hwGILb3 6. The Art of Clear Writing -- Amit's writing course: https://indiauncut.com/clear-writing/ 7. The India Uncut Newsletter -- Amit's newsletter at https://indiauncut.substack.com/ 8. Life Lessons -- a course taught by Amit Varma & Ajay Shah: https://lifelessons.co.in/ 9. The LEAP Blog: https://blog.theleapjournal.org/#gsc.... 10. A Billion Wicked Thoughts — Ogi Ogas and Say Gaddam: https://amzn.in/d/3VzsiJq 11. Sexual Behavior in the Human Male — Alfred Kinsey & others: https://amzn.in/d/iyFRmFM 12. Sexual Behavior in the Human Female — Alfred Kinsey & others: https://amzn.in/d/2RSlFEy 13. The Selfish Gene — Richard Dawkins: https://amzn.in/d/7hHOUmn 14. The Evolution of Human Sexuality — Donald Symons: https://amzn.in/d/bvKFSsP 15. The Blank Slate — Steven Pinker: https://amzn.in/d/32ckNwU 16. The Mating Mind — Geoffrey Miller: https://amzn.in/d/7qPb9d7 17. The Evolution of Desire — David Buss: https://amzn.in/d/9ueYL6Z 18. The Moral Animal — Robert Wright: https://amzn.in/d/e9huyHt 19. The Is-Ought Problem: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Is%E2%8... 20. The Naturalistic Fallacy: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Natural... 21. Warrior Lovers — Catherine Salmon and Donald Symons: https://amzn.in/d/4DVEa3Q We also referred to EIE episodes 61, 109, 115, 125, 31 and 118 in this episode, in that order! You can browse them here:    / @amitvarma   Produced by Amit Varma Shot by Vaishnav Vyas & Nomsita MS Haritashya:   / vaishnav.vyas   Edited by Nomsita MS Haritashya:   / nomsitaharitashya   Thanks to Gaurav Chintamani for helping with sound:   / gaurav_chintamani   Chapter image by Simahina.