Stop Asking "How Are You?": 3 Phrases to Be Likable | Vanessa Van Edwards x Steven Bartlett

Stop Asking "How Are You?": 3 Phrases to Be Likable | Vanessa Van Edwards x Steven Bartlett Stop Asking "How Are You?": 3 Phrases to Be Likable | Vanessa Van Edwards x Steven Bartlett Stop Asking "How Are You?": 3 Phrases to Be Likable | Vanessa Van Edwards x Steven Bartlett "The most popular kids didn't have the best looks or the most money—they had the longest list of people they liked." Vanessa Van Edwards reveals the counter-intuitive science of popularity and explains why being "cool" is actually about being a "liker." We often think charisma is an innate gift, but research shows it's a learnable skill based on cues and mindset. Vanessa breaks down the groundbreaking "sweat study" that proves emotions are chemically contagious, explains why sitting near low performers can tank your productivity by 30%, and offers a practical framework for rewriting your "Self-Narrative" from Victim to Hero. Timestamps: 00:00 - The Surprising Science of Popularity: It’s Not About Looks 01:32 - The "Liker" Strategy: How to Become Instantly More Likable 03:00 - The 3 Magic Phrases to Use Instead of "How Are You?" 06:05 - The 3 Levels of Intimacy: Moving from Acquaintance to Friend 07:26 - Self-Narratives: Are You a Hero, Healer, or Victim? 08:58 - The "Luck" Mindset: How Believing You're Lucky Changes Reality 10:59 - The "Contagion" Effect: Why Low Performers Drag You Down 12:30 - The "Fear Sweat" Experiment: We Can Smell Emotions 15:10 - The Cue Cycle: How Social Rejection Changes Your Biology 16:29 - "Name It to Tame It": How to Stop Absorbing Negative Energy Vanessa Van Edwards is a behavioral investigator and the best-selling author of Captivate: The Science of Succeeding with People and Cues: Master the Secret Language of Charismatic Communication. She runs Science of People, a human behavior research lab that teaches individuals how to improve their interpersonal skills and emotional intelligence. Vanessa Van Edwards, Science of People, Charisma, Social Skills, Psychology, Popularity, Likability, Behavioral Science, Body Language, Cues, Emotional Contagion, Self-Narrative, Mindset, Productivity, Networking, Communication Skills, Leadership, Personal Development. Hashtags: #Podcast #VanessaVanEdwards #StevenBartlett #Psychology #SocialSkills