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HOW TO LIVE WITH A NARCISSIST?? 13 answers to this question (Perhaps useful for anyone living near others). Based on a seminar by Umberta Telfner*. In the following, "he" is "the narcissist." Narcissists can be both men and women. So: 1. Keep some space just for yourself; have your own garden, where no one but you can enter and which you don't share with anyone (especially not a narcissist). 2. Don't entrust your value to another. Don't ask, "Do you love me?" or "Do you like me?" and don't rely on the answers. 3. Don't create a monster image of them. Don't think of them as, "Everything you do is against me." 4. Don't take them too seriously. Otherwise, you'll be deeply hurt. Create distance, a buffer zone. Sometimes he'll be angry, sometimes he'll sulk, sometimes he'll be gloomy. Be prepared for this and find ways to have fun and cheer yourself up without his help. 5. Don't demand that he do everything with you. He needs distance. 6. Encourage him, praise him, and reward him. He has issues with self-esteem and needs outside support. 7. Don't give him the complete confidence that you're his. Give him something to strive for. Besides, too much intimacy scares him. 8. Don't compare him to others, especially not to his advantage. This will break his heart. And he'll break yours in return. 9. Remember that he has a problem with emotional intimacy. While he's in love, he appears incredibly loving and impeccably caring. Therefore, his coldness may come as a surprise. You'll start looking for the problem in yourself: what am I doing wrong? But it's not about you or anything to blame. Coldness is his nature. He just hasn't shown it before. Or you haven't noticed. 10. Be prepared for the narcissist to anger and provoke you. This is his way of increasing distance when he needs it. Don't interfere with this. Move a little further away. 11. Don't be upset by his first "no." He has a habit of saying no. Wait it out. 12. Nurture his "I" - it's a weak flower that needs to be nurtured and sheltered from the wind. 13. Don't offer him the whole world before he asks. Recorded and translated by Olga Soulchinska Tatyana Chuvilchikova - psychologist, psychotherapist, supervisor. Approaches - Gestalt, psychoanalysis. Experience since 2009. Individual psychotherapy, couples therapy, group therapy, supervision. My website: https://tatianapsy.com/ My Telegram channel: https://t.me/tatianapsiholog #psychology #psychologist #relationshippsychology #onlinepsychologist #personalitypsychology #lifepsychology #psychologistconsultation #psychologyofsuccess #psychologicalhelp #familypsychologist #happinesspsychology #women'spsychology #women'spsychology #psychologisthelp #psychologicalcounseling