Calm Can Feel Dangerous After Trauma

In this warm, candid, and deeply human conversation, Janina Fisher sits down with her longtime colleague and friend Deb Dana, the clinician who has brought polyvagal theory to therapists around the world. Together, they explore how understanding the nervous system transforms clinical practice, therapeutic presence, and even how we move through our own lives. Spanning more than two decades of shared history—from Sensory Motor Psychotherapy trainings in Portsmouth to the early days of Deb’s work with Stephen Porges—this dialogue weaves personal stories with practical wisdom. Janina and Deb speak the same language: relational safety, parts, states, regulation, and the powerful ripple effect of ventral vagal connection. Key Takeaways: How polyvagal theory “completes the puzzle” for clinicians trained in somatic, parts-based, or talk therapies The therapist’s state as the primary intervention: why being regulated matters more than doing something Ventral vagal as “an unopposable force” and the surprising contagion of safety and connection Parts work inside the nervous system: how sympathetic, dorsal, and ventral shape what parts become available Why clients may fear ventral regulation—especially those with complex trauma or dissociative processes The dangers of rushing: urgency, sympathetic drivenness, and the pressures therapists feel to “make something happen” Deb Dana, LCSW, is a clinician, author, speaker, and internationally recognized expert on the clinical application of Polyvagal Theory. She is a founding member of the Polyvagal Institute and an advisor to Unyte. In her work she plays a critical role in advancing the application of Polyvagal-informed approaches in clinical settings. Deb is well known for her ability to translate the complexities of Polyvagal Theory into accessible, client-centered interventions. Through her Rhythm of Regulation® methodology, she has introduced groundbreaking tools and practices that empower professionals and individuals alike to understand their nervous systems and change the way they navigate their daily lives. Deb’s clinical work published with W.W. Norton includes The Polyvagal Theory in Therapy, Polyvagal Exercises, the Polyvagal Flip Chart, and the Glimmers Journal. Her work with Sounds True for a general audience includes Anchored and The Nervous System Workbook. Deb can be contacted via her website www.rhythmofregulation.com Janina's links Website: https://janinafisher.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drjaninafis... My new book: https://www.amazon.com/Embracing-Our-...