Como lidar com a rejeição?

Online or in-person psychotherapy scheduling: WhatsApp 11 99787-4512 http://www.marisapsicologa.com.br/hor... In-person service: Rua Bela Cintra, 968 (near Av Paulista - Consolação Metro and Paulista Metro) Subscribe to this channel http://goo.gl/32B3B6 Become a member of the channel club:    / @psicólogosemsãopaulo   Free E-books http://www.marisapsicologa.com.br/mat... E-books already published OCD Obsessive Compulsive Disorder. Personality Disorders. Depression. Psychological treatments. Anxiety. Panic. ADHD Attention deficit. Hypochondria. Schizophrenia. Anorexia. Obesity. Agoraphobia. Treatment for alcoholism. Self-esteem. Childhood anxiety. Shyness. Bournot. Premature ejaculation. Overcoming the pain of separation. How to maintain sanity during quarantine. Insomnia. Abandonment neurosis. Borderline. Join the Telegram group: https://t.me/PsicologosemSP Marisa de Abreu Psychologist CRP 06/29493 _________________________________________ How to deal with rejection? Sometimes we are rejected by those who never wanted us, other times by those who once showed great interest. I believe that the indifference of those who once loved us, said beautiful things to us, made promises for the future, can be much more painful. That feeling of “Where did all that stuff you said to me go?” It hurts a lot, it gives the impression that the other person has been lying all along, or is lying now and is just irritated and in a little while we will get the person back, but they won't come back. Even if a person doesn't want you, know that this is just their decision, it doesn't speak about you, don't blame yourself, don't isolate yourself, the world hasn't ended, there are many more people in the world. Don't go after someone who has already decided that they don't want to be with you, think about yourself, about what good you can do for yourself now. Sometimes rejection happens without the person who rejected you even knowing that they are rejecting you, because neediness creates imaginary affections. Remember, no one is obligated to like you, but that doesn't mean that you are not a wonderful person and that there will always be someone who sees your value. And we can also talk about those on the other side, those whose feelings for someone have ended, and may have ended for a thousand reasons, and feel bad about having to distance themselves so as not to hurt the other person anymore. Yes, it is necessary to give space, maintaining expectations can be cruel. Many times out of pity, or because they want to keep the relationship on another level, people do not distance themselves, but know that having someone by your side wanting much more than you have to give is very painful. Be kind, clear, objective, and respect that person's feelings. There is also rejection that comes from within, when you do not accept yourself, when some trauma has made you think that you are worth less, when an external rejection is internalized and the person begins to reject themselves. It can become a way of being where one does not realize that the cause of their isolation, refusing invitations, not taking care of themselves physically or intellectually, that is, not studying, not putting in effort at work, are caused by internal rejection. In other words, their internal world is reflected outside, the person believes that they are being rejected when in fact they are sabotaging themselves, distancing themselves from others believing that others are distancing themselves. It is the person who rejects before being rejected. And finally, those who specifically look for people who have everything to reject them, is another form of self-sabotage that shows how much of this person's history needs to be reinterpreted.