The Truth about Daycare, Nannies, and Working Moms | The Lila Rose Podcast E78

How much work is too much work for a mother of young children? Who should be the trusted caregiver for a child whose mother has to work? What should single mothers do? Today I sit down with Erica Komisar, psychoanalyst and parent coach, to discuss the importance of mothers “Being There” for their young children, as her groundbreaking book suggests. We discuss what is the ideal balance between work life and motherhood, especially with children under 4-years-old, when the child is at their most vulnerable and dependent stage of life. We also discuss the research behind outcomes for kids in daycare, aloparenting, practical advice for single moms, what type of schooling is ideal for children, and much more. Check out Erica's Work: https://www.ericakomisar.com/ Check Out Our Sponsors: Nimi Skincare: Check out my favorite skin care brand and get 15% off using the code LILA. https://www.nimiskincare.com/discount... Seven Weeks Coffee: https://www.sevenweekscoffee.com Buy your pro-life coffee with a 10% discount using the code LILA! EveryLife: https://www.everylife.com Buy diapers from an amazing pro-life diaper company and use code LILA and get 10% off! Timestamps: 00:00 Intro Sequence 00:27 Introduction 02:39 Erica's Background 03:27 Her Motivation For this Research 06:01 Being a Voice for Children 08:22 The Role of Mom Guilt 11:21 The Status Quo of Mothers Working 12:55 Children Are Born Neurologically Vulnerable 16:39 What About Tantrums? 20:55 Nimi Skincare 21:54 What is the Optimal Way to Raise Your Child? 24:15 Ideal Quantity Time? 28:06 Can Mothers Have Breaks? 29:13 Balanced Role of Other Caretakers 31:15 Caring for 0 to 3 Year Olds 34:34 A Reason for Postpartum Depression 35:40 Ideal for 2-3 Year Olds 37:48 Better To Have Baby at Work or a Helper? 39:41 A Formual To Stick To 41:18 How "Child Care" Pre-Schools Changed 42:31 More On The Ideal 44:51 You Are Their Universe 46:43 The Lost Instinct 48:08 Sexual Revolution = War Against Babies 50:12 Maternal Feminism 51:02 Seven Weeks Coffee 51:58 The Ideal When Going Out 54:06 Transition Times 57:03 Fear of Coddling 58:24 When Independent Sleeping is Normal 1:00:15 Men and Women Fill Different Needs 1:01:08 The Best Jobs for Women 1:02:27 Goodbye and Repair 1:06:15 Mothers Should Be Able to Stay Home for First 3 Years 1:07:17 Women with Attachment Disorders 1:12:41 Couples Should Discuss Options Together 1:16:10 EveryLife 1:16:48 Family Court Settlements 1:18:50 Community Life 1:21:10 Women and Entrepreneurship 1:23:30 Men and Women Work and Nurture Differently 1:26:30 Maternal Preoccupation is Normal 1:29:50 Are Mothers and Fathers Interchangeable? 1:33:03 Pragmatic Advice for Parents 1:35:17 The Harm of Daycare 1:38:16 Advice for Single Moms 1:40:02 Babysitters/Nannies 1:41:23 Overcoming Personal Roadblocks 1:45:14 Second Chances? 1:48:11 Maximizing the Bond 1:50:23 Should Kids Be Homeschooled? 1:52:35 Dealing with Those Who Don't Understand 1:55:08 Rediscovering Motherly Instinct 1:59:16 Where to Find Erica's Work 1:59:37 Final Thoughts 2:00:08 Guilt vs Excessive Guilt 2:02:18 Wrap Up