Overthinkers Anonymous Ep 10: Men, Therapy & the Fear of Being Known

In this episode, men who have been to therapy and done deep self‑work, talk about what they discovered about themselves. We take jokes like 'therapy is for women' or 'men who talk too much' and connect them to real-life challenges in relationships, career, and self-respect. ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ Zikoko amplifies the best of African youth culture by curating and creating smart and joyful content for young Africans and the world. Subscribe and follow us: Twitter: [  / zikokomag  ] Instagram: [  / zikokomag  ] Facebook: [  / zikokomag  ] Website: [https://www.zikoko.com] MB01I3QEFTVZT3B 00:00 - Introduction: Conversations with fathers 01:00 - The fear of being seen on social media 02:02 - Guest Introductions: King David and Efa Iwara 02:54 - Defining "Inner Work" for men 04:52 - The beginning of self-confrontation 06:48 - King David’s journey through the "Great Depression" 11:00 - Efa’s 2024 "Mini Meltdown" and realization 13:15 - Dealing with grief and life's trajectory 15:47 - Studying law vs. pursuing passion 20:34 - African parents and mental health perspectives 22:12 - The impact of negative self-talk 23:42 - Ground zero: 25 Naira and a leap of faith 27:59 - The joy and relief of film making 31:50 - Vulnerability and sharing struggles online 41:02 - Stripping away celebrity and "Performing" 48:28 - Pressures of being a man in Nigeria 53:56 - Why being fully known is scary 59:15 - Learning to be more vulnerable 1:06:04 - Unlearning "Sorting yourself out" alone 1:09:14 - Audience Dilemma: Vulnerability as a weapon 1:16:31 - Audience Dilemma: Dealing with an angry father 1:26:35 - Moments of needing professional help 1:38:59 - Closing thoughts and reflections