God Is Not Putting That On You. Purity Culture Is. | Reclaiming Pleasure ft. Ashley Cobb

This episode was livestreamed in the TFC Virtual Patreon Community. Subscribe to the TFCVirtual Patreon Here:   / tfcvirtual   Sex educator and author Ashley Cobb joins Holy Smokes to discuss the impacts or Purity Culture — who it actually protects, what it costs Black women, and why reclaiming pleasure is a theological act, not a rebellion against God. From her journey out of Pinky Promise leadership to writing "Pleasure Please: A Guide for Black Women to Experience Sexual Confidence," Ashley and the crew dismantle the shame, the control, and the gospel of sexual suppression the church has been selling for decades. Your body is not the enemy. Order "Pleasure, Please!" by Ashley Cobb here: https://www.sexwithashley.com/book Order Kristian’s new eBook, “Question Your Answers: A Deconstruction Survival Guide” here: https://questionyouranswers.kristiana... Purchase full-length, uncensored episodes of the podcast here:   / tfcvirtual   Get Merch here: https://thefaithcommunity.org/merch-s... Order Breaking All The Rules here: https://www.kristianasmith.com/breaki... Apply for a Pay it Forward Sponsorship here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FA... Episode Chapters 00:00:00 – The Masturbation Rule That Never Made Sense: Opening the Conversation 00:01:44 – Meet Ashley Cobb: From Pinky Promise Leader to Sex Educator 00:05:50 – Such Was I: Rich Auntie on True Love Waits & Purity Culture Indoctrination 00:11:14 – The One Rule & Our Sexual Ethic: Consent, Honesty, and Mutuality 00:16:43 – Reaching for the Stars: Purity Culture as Thirst Trap 00:24:37 – Purity Culture Is About Control — Not Protection 00:28:31 – Wet Dreams Are Sin? The Preaching That Stigmatized Your Own Body 00:33:54 – Who Purity Culture Actually Protects (Hint: It's Not Women)