He Designed the Abuse Specifically for You — with Kate Anthony

If you've ever Googled "signs of emotional abuse" and thought, "That's not quite me" — this episode is for you. Divorce coach, podcast host, and author Kate Anthony joins me on the Restoring Resilience podcast to unpack why covert abuse is so hard to name, why couples therapy can actually make things worse, and why the real question isn't "Does he match the checklist?" — it's "How do I feel in this relationship?" Kate shares her own story of leaving a psychologically abusive marriage in the mid-2000s, before the language even existed to describe what was happening to her — and how that experience shaped her life's work helping others do the same. In this episode: ✅ Why covert abusers don't follow a script — they follow you ✅ Why couples therapy is contraindicated in abusive relationships ✅ The danger of checklist-obsession and what to focus on instead ✅ What "betrayal blindness" is and why your brain protects you from seeing the truth ✅ How to start reconnecting to yourself even while still in the relationship ✅ The one simple thing you can do today to begin restoring your resilience Subscribe so you never miss an episode, and remember — resilience can be restored. ABOUT KATE Kate Anthony is a certified high-conflict divorce coach, Domestic Violence Advocate, and the author of The D-Word: Making the Ultimate Decision About Your Marriage. Through her top-ranked podcast The Divorce Survival Guide and her coaching programs, she helps women break free from coercive control and rebuild their lives with clarity and confidence. The D Word: Making the Ultimate Decision About Your Marriage --https://a.co/d/0e8Z9b6E Learn more about Kate: https://kateanthony.com ABOUT CHELSEY Chelsey Brooke Cole is a licensed psychotherapist and certified partner trauma therapist helping people trust themselves again after narcissistic abuse. She’s the author of the best-selling book If Only I'd Known! How to Outsmart Narcissists, Set Guilt-Free Boundaries, and Create Unshakeable Self-Worth. She hosts the Restoring Resilience podcast and guides survivors to healing through her signature program, Rewired for Resilience: Reclaiming Yourself After Narcissistic Abuse. Resources & Next Steps If this episode resonated with you, here are a few ways to go deeper: ✨ Free Masterclass: The Narcissist’s Playbook Understand the exact patterns narcissists use—and why it’s so hard to see clearly when you’re in it 👉 https://www.chelseybrookecole.com/the... 🧠 Free Quizzes: Is It Narcissistic Abuse? Not sure what you're dealing with? Take a free 2-minute quiz to get clarity now 👉 https://www.chelseybrookecole.com/qui... ✨ Rewired for Resilience (Healing Program) Go beyond awareness and start rebuilding self-trust, emotional safety, and clarity from the inside out 👉 https://www.chelseybrookecole.com/rew... 📖 Read the First Chapter of My Book (Free) 👉 https://www.chelseybrookecole.com/fir... 🌐 Website 👉 https://www.chelseybrookecole.com/ Follow me on Instagram   / chelseybrookecole   Follow me on Facebook   / chelseybrookecole   Follow me on TikTok   / chelseybrookecole   Follow me on LinkedIn   / chelseybrookecole   DISCLAIMER: THIS INFORMATION IS FOR EDUCATIONAL PURPOSES ONLY AND IS NOT INTENDED TO BE A SUBSTITUTE FOR CLINICAL CARE. PLEASE CONSULT A HEALTH CARE PROVIDER FOR GUIDANCE SPECIFIC TO YOUR CASE. THIS VIDEO DISCUSSES NARCISSISM IN GENERAL. THE VIDEO DOES NOT REFER TO ANY SPECIFIC PERSON, AND SHOULD NOT BE USED TO REFER TO ANY SPECIFIC PERSON, AS HAVING NARCISSISM. PERMISSION IS NOT GRANTED TO LINK TO OR REPOST THIS VIDEO, ESPECIALLY TO SUPPORT AN ALLEGATION THAT THE MAKERS OF THIS VIDEO BELIEVE, OR SUPPORT A CLAIM, THAT A SPECIFIC PERSON IS A NARCISSIST. THAT WOULD BE AN UNAUTHORIZED MISUSE OF THE VIDEO AND THE INFORMATION FEATURED IN IT. #narcissisticabuse #coercivecontrol #restoringresilience #emotionalabuse #healingjourney