Why We Stay Stuck Even When We Want Change

Have you ever looked at your life and thought: "I know what I want... so why do I keep getting in my own way?" This week on Lo's Couch, we're talking about the stories that quietly shape our lives—the ones we didn't consciously choose but somehow keep living from. Inspired by Magnetic by Rochelle Fox (https://amzn.to/4fNssTu) , this conversation explores subconscious beliefs, nervous system patterns, and the survival strategies that can become identities long after the season that created them has ended. I share the question from the book that stopped me in my tracks: What am I gaining from staying the same? We unpack why familiar pain can feel safer than unfamiliar possibility, how old stories influence our decisions, and why awareness is often the first step toward change. I also share a deeply personal story about losing my brother when my youngest son was just ten weeks old—and how a survival strategy that helped me through grief quietly became part of the way I moved through the world for years afterward. If you've ever felt stuck, overwhelmed, disconnected from yourself, or unsure why certain patterns keep repeating, this episode is for you. ✨ The question that changed how I think about personal growth ✨ Why survival strategies often become identities ✨ The hidden payoff behind the patterns we want to change ✨ How subconscious beliefs shape our choices ✨ A simple journaling prompt to uncover the story underneath your struggles ✨ Why awareness isn't failure—it's progress Grab something warm, get comfortable, and come sit. • Magnetic by Rochelle Fox (https://amzn.to/4uvpPZX) • Mindspo (https://mindspo.com/) • www.laurencollcoaching.com (https://laurencollcoaching.com/) Your Take Away: I stopped speaking up because... Write the first answer that comes up. Don't edit it. Don't make it sound healed. Just tell the truth.