Being a "Good Girl" Is a Scam , Here's Why...

Today we are joined by the incredible Sangeeta Pillai ‪@soulsutras2436‬ Sangeeta grew up in the slums of Mumbai, fought her way out of an arranged marriage, and became the founder of Soul Sutras and the multi-award-winning Masala Podcast, the UK's biggest South Asian feminist platform. In this episode we go deep on the mother wound, generational trauma, and the specific kind of shame South Asian women are raised to carry. We talk about reclaiming the word "bossy," growing up under patriarchy in Mumbai, immigrant shame, healing her relationship with her mother, leaving India for London, and re-rooting in Kerala to find belonging. We also get into redefining South Asian culture on your own terms, the stigma around loneliness, building genuine community, the "man hater" label thrown at feminists, real male allyship, breaking scarcity mindset, and reconnecting with your body and pleasure. If you've ever felt like tired of being “good” this one is for you TIMESTAMPS: 00:00:00 – Introduction: Meet Sangeeta Pillai 00:00:46 – Reclaiming The Word Bossy & Speaking Up 00:02:31 – Growing Up In Mumbai & Overcoming Patriarchy 00:04:53 – The Societal Function Of Shame 00:07:05 – Unpacking Cultural Shame As Immigrants 00:09:36 – Healing The Mother Wound & Generational Trauma 00:13:58 – Leaving The Motherland & Moving To London 00:16:50 – Re-Rooting And Finding Belonging In Kerala 00:20:22 – Redefining South Asian Culture On Your Own Terms 00:24:35 – The Hidden Stigma And Shame Around Loneliness 00:28:13 – Evolving Identity And Outgrowing Old Spaces 00:29:29 – How To Build A Genuine And Intentional Community 00:33:37 – Navigating The "Man Hater" Label As A Feminist 00:37:18 – How Men Can Show Up As True Allies To Women 00:39:15 – Breaking The Scarcity Mindset Among Women 00:41:48 – Learning To Relax, Let Go, And Receive Abundance 00:44:35 – Reconnecting With Your Body & Calming Your Nervous System 00:47:25 – Expanding Your Lexicon Of Pleasure As A Woman 00:50:24 – Conclusion: Where To Find Sangeeta Follow and Connect with Sangeeta: Sangeeta’s Website https://soulsutras.co.uk/about-sangee... Follow Sangeeta on instagram https://www.instagram.com/soulsutras/... Connect with Sangeeta on Linkedin https://www.linkedin.com/in/sangeeta-... Masala Podcast : https://open.spotify.com/show/7eCWGNx... Connect with the Pod / Me Podcast Instagram: @reclaimingbossy My Instagram: @maahika.s Podcast TikTok: @reclaimingbossy My TikTok: @maahika.s For collaborations and enquiries: [email protected] If you enjoyed this episode send it to a fellow bad beti ;)