Jennifer Garvey Berger - Creating Conditions for Love (Transformational Learning Summit)

WATCH ALL THE SUMMIT SESSIONS FOR FREE HERE: WWW.TRANSFORMATIONALLEARNINGSUMMIT.COM KEY TAKEAWAYS Transformation involves changing the shape of our understanding and the way we make sense of the world. It requires seeing something we were previously subject to and making it an object we can examine. Relationships facilitate transformation through companionship and intimate partnerships. Being seen by others helps us see ourselves. Creating conditions for love (deep listening, acceptance, suspending judgement) helps remove barriers to transformation. Love is the natural flow between us that creates openness. Noticing body sensations, instead of stories, helps have clearer conversations and create better conditions for transformation. Insights alone don't create change. We need practices and relationships to integrate insights and sustain transformation. TOPICS Transformation Transformation means changing the shape and form of our understanding of the world. It involves moving something from subject to object - from something we are unconsciously embedded in to something we can consciously examine. To transform, we must see and examine things we were previously subject to. This is enriching but also terrifying. Our system resists it. Transformation happens through insights and by creating practices to integrate those insights into new ways of being. This requires humility, companionship, and repeatedly returning to the insight. Relationships Relationships facilitate transformation through companionship. Being seen helps us see ourselves. Leaders should create conditions for others to develop positive regard and psychological safety to support transformation. Intimate relationships provide mirrors that expose our patterns and assumptions. All forms of companionship aid transformation. Love Creating conditions for love (deep listening, acceptance, suspending judgment) helps remove barriers to transformation. Love is the natural flow between us that creates openness. But openness also brings the risk of pain, so we armor ourselves against love. Practices that remove armoring and invite natural love flow create conditions ripe for transformation. Body sensations Noticing body sensations rather than stories provides clearer information untainted by our judgments and assumptions. Body sensations create common ground for clearer, more grounded conversations. Tuning into the body gives clues about what we are drawn to or resisting. This accelerates transformation. -- The Transformational Learning Summit is presented by Sutra, a social learning platform designed around group experiences that invite meaningful connection and conversation. You can try Sutra for free at https://www.sutra.co