Beyond Stigma: Phenyo on Love, Identity & HIV | Don't Hold Back

How do you live proudly when the world still carries stigma? In this unfiltered episode of Don’t Hold Back, Nozibele Qamngana-Mayaba sits down with Phenyo Moletsane — a proud Black, gay man living openly with HIV in 2025 — for a powerful conversation that goes beyond labels, beyond fear, beyond silence. From navigating the complexities of HIV stigma in South Africa to redefining what it means to love and live openly as a Black queer man, Phenyo shares the realities that many don’t see. He opens up about the micro-moments where visibility feels like both liberation and risk, how mental health is an ongoing battle, and the evolving nature of relationships. This episode dives deep into breaking misconceptions around HIV, embracing identity with power and pride, and the courage it takes to challenge social norms. Phenyo also reveals the joys and struggles of dating when you live openly with HIV, and the vital support LGBTQIA+ youth need beyond the usual messages of “just be yourself.” Whether you’re living with HIV, part of the queer community, or an ally ready to learn how to better support without shame or saviorism, this conversation is real, raw, and full of heart. Don’t forget to subscribe to listen to more unforgettable dialogues that remind us: your story is enough. Always. #dontholdbackpodcast #DWDontHoldBack ----- This show is a collaboration between DW and leading South African radio stations, Jacaranda FM and East Coast Radio. More information about this podcast: https://www.dw.com/en/dontholdback/a-... You can also check out more of our shows: The 77 Percent (DW Africa): / @dwthe77percent Jacaranda FM: https://www.jacarandafm.com/podcasts/ East Coast Radio: https://www.ecr.co.za/podcasts/ Catch up with our host Nozibele: / Nozibele Qamngana ----- 77 percent of Africans are younger than 35. Africa's youth holds the key to shaping the continent’s future. On our platforms we share their stories, their dreams and their challenges. Are you part of the 77 percent? Join the debate here on YouTube, and on the following platforms: facebook.com/dw.africa instagram.com/dw_the77percent dw.com/77 dw.com/africa