Insist on TRUE LOVE, Reject FANTASY

Shared fantasy and especially idealization defense against triggering of early childhood traumas (hurt aversion, dread of intimacy and love): she is ideal, so will not hurt me, I am perfect, so above reproach and invulnerable. Recreates secure base and symbiosis (back to womb). Shared fantasy differs from infatuation and limerence: Anomic (antisocial)-rigid delusional kingdom Intensity (controlled dysregulation, like addiction) Addiction Immersion Resonance, instant recognition Divinity (invincibility) Wholeness Inexorability No plateau, only transcendence Impaired reality testing, fantasy, paracosm Attribution errors, projection, splitting Mutual infantile regression Anxieties (loss, abandonment, rejection), catastrophizing Negative affectivity Anxiolytic control Sublimated aggression, frustration, abuse Find and Buy MOST of my BOOKS and eBOOKS in my Amazon Store: https://www.amazon.com/stores/page/60...