Stay or go after infidelity?

Stay or go after an affair? You just found out that they've been cheating. Shock, grief, depression and anxiety seem to take turns torturing you. How freakin unfair it is that someone else's terrible choices throw you in complete torment! Let me just say that I'm sorry this has happened to you. You did not cause this to happen. Did you hear me? YOU DID NOT CAUSE THIS! Often times the cheater will try and blame you for their poor choices. Nope. Not today. I can be unhappy, disconnected, unfulfilled... you name it and I can still choose to be faithful and they could have too, right? But here you are trying to survive this and it feels impossible. I understand, I've been there too. So, what now? Whew, that's a big question! I believe that there are so many big questions, hard work and healing ahead of you. Do you try to make the relationship work? What about our family? Do you need to get tested for STDs? How do you deal with all of these emotions? How should they be treating you? How do you set and enforce strong boundaries? How can you trust anyone ever again? Holy crap, I could just keep listing questions for the rest of the day. Big decisions are hard to make on a normal day, right? So making massive decisions like staying or leaving a relationship is really hard to make when you are in shock and drowning in anxiety and depression. I strongly believe that discovering an affair is a serious trauma to your mental and physical state, so much that I made a video with affair recovery therapists Julia Kristina and Melo Garcia to discuss how and why learning about your partner's affair is so freakin traumatic and what you can start doing about it. Click here to watch this video. This is a must-watch​ if your partner is belittling your feelings, expecting you to just get over it, gets frustrated that you are still upset or want to discuss or it's been years and you are still struggling. So, stay or go after infidelity? This is tough. Clearly, I don't know you, them, your family, your situation so I cannot just tell the answer. You'll have to make that choice on your own. I can give you some direction. Read more --- https://www.aftertheaffair.co/post/st...