They Want You… Until They Have You: The Avoidant’s Hot & Cold Trap

The avoidant craves you when you're distant but loses interest when you're available. Hot/cold. Push/pull. It will remain the same… until you do this: Ken writes, “Hi Susan, thank you for your wonderful videos. They have helped me a lot in my dating life. What are your thoughts on dating the guy who always thinks the grass is greener on the other side. When I'm with him he doesn't want me, when I leave him I finally have value, and he wants me. I would greatly appreciate your advice, thank you!” The avoidant’s attraction is fueled by longing, not love. It’s easy to hope your absence has sparked their desire. But once you’re back in their arms, their fear of engulfment triggers them to pull away. This cycle keeps them uncommitted, always seeking greener grass while leaving you questioning if the connection was ever real. 1. The Avoidant’s Push-Pull Dynamics 2. Their Fear of Intimacy 3. Ending Your Emotional Rollercoaster --- Work with Me: https://susanwinter.net/consultation/ Breakup Triage; The Cure for Heartache Audible: http://www.audible.com/pd/Self-Develo... Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/Breakup-Triage... Allowing Magnificence; Living the Expanded Version of Your Life- Book and Audiobook: https://www.amazon.com/dp/1479176087 00:00 Introduction 00:43 Reading Subscribers Question 01:44 Hot & Cold Dance 02:40 Avoidant Breakdown 03:57 When They Come Back 04:57 Do You Give Them a Second Chance?