Ni-Ti loop (INFJ) vs Ni-Fi loop (INTJ) - my real life example

Trying to describe the dreadful dominant-tertiary loop in INFJ & INTJ based on my experience with my INTJ partner. Some interesting comments mentioned the possibility of this (INFJ) having BPD tendencies. What do you guys think? You may want to change the speed to 1.5 or 2x as I do speak slowly. Personality Hacker explanation about each functions:    • INFJ Personality: Mind Wiring For Personal...   1:14 : INTJ & INFJ functions 2:46 : What I think happens to the functions during the dominant-tertiary loop 3:28 : My experience of how this loop may have happened with my INTJ partner 7:34 : The "explosion" of emotions from INFJ and the shut down of INTJ 11:50 : Some tips for other INFJs & INTJs on how to deal with this kind of conflict