You Want Their Marriage… But Could You Handle It ft. Mr. & Mrs. KevOnStage

Sex Is a Skill. Beducated is where you learn it. Join the world's largest sex school and access 150+ courses for curious adults: https://beduc.at/bg2621-boody Big love to the sponsor of this episode, Masterclass. Right now, our listeners get an additional 15% off any MasterClass annual membership at masterclass.com/lovers. ---------- In this episode of Lovers, I sit down with KevOnStage and Melissa Fredericks for a conversation about the kind of partnership most people admire from a distance… but might struggle to survive in real life. Before the success, before the tours, and before the platform, Melissa was the one carrying the financial weight of their household while Kev pursued stand-up comedy full time. She talks honestly about what it felt like to be the responsible one, why she chose not to weaponize money in their relationship, and how they built trust without keeping score. Together, they unpack the mindset that has shaped their marriage for years: if one person fails, both people fail. If one person wins, both people win. We also talk about resentment in long-term relationships, navigating major life transitions like perimenopause, giving your partner room to evolve, and why some of the choices that strengthened their marriage would look completely irrational to other couples. This episode challenges modern ideas around independence, partnership, sacrifice, gender roles, and what it actually means to build a life with someone instead of simply alongside them. If you’ve ever wondered what real partnership looks like behind the scenes, or questioned whether you’d actually be willing to make the sacrifices required for the kind of love you admire, this conversation is for you. CHAPTERS 0:00 Trailer 01:01 What To Expect 02:35 Frozen Shoulders & Perimenopause 04:26 From Puberty to Menopause 06:08 Melissa Didn't Married a Dreamer 07:50 From Paychecks to Punchlines 10:03 Being a Stay-at-Home Dad 13:50 Next Week’s Episode 16:34 “What Was I Thinking?” 18:30 Dream Big… But Have a Plan B 23:27 Frederick’s Family Manifesto 26:05 "We" Instead of "You" 28:35 “Don’t Hand Her a Ladder” 32:47 Relationships Are About Regulation 34:31 Why Empty Nesting Hits Differently 42:14 Still Having Lust for Life 43:35 Did We Raise Our Kids Right? 46:22 Senior Assassin Explained 47:50 Becoming Empty Nesters 51:21 Judging Your Parenting 54:47 Sex Life Follow KevOnStage & Melissa Fredericks → Kev's Instagram:   / kevonstage   → Melissa's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mrskevonsta... → Website & Tour Dates: https://www.kevonstage.com → Watch Kev’s Shows & Comedy Content    / kevonstage   AND don’t miss the latest release from Kennedy Ryan upcoming novel Score → https://kennedyryanwrites.com/score/ Did you know Kennedy Ryan came on the podcast?    • If They Don’t Give You THIS, It’s a No. Ke...   Want more Lover? Shan’s AI trained to give you her advice → http://loversbyshan.com Get a free weekly Love Letter → http://loversbyshan.com/newsletter Join the Lovers Community → https://www.loversbyshan.com/community Explore free quizzes + worksheets → http://loversbyshan.com/quizzes ________________________ Advertising & Other Inquiries: [email protected]