Jay & Radhi: The BIGGEST LIE About “The Right Time” to Have Kids

In this first episode of On Purpose with Radhi, Jay opens up a conversation many of us have faced but rarely unpack, being asked, “When are you having kids?” What seems like a casual question often carries a weight that touches on biology, cultural expectations, financial realities, and deeply personal struggles. Together, Jay and Radhi peel back the layers of why this question can feel so triggering, especially for women, and why the assumptions behind it often miss the heart of the matter. They explore how family pressure, societal timelines, and even social media comparisons can make people feel like they’re “behind,” while statistics actually show that having children later in life has become the norm. From the challenges of IVF and miscarriages to the fear of balancing career and motherhood, Jay and Radhi shed light on the unspoken realities couples quietly carry. They remind us that true preparation for parenthood isn’t about perfect timing, it’s about awareness, acceptance, and readiness for change. In this episode, you'll learn: How to Handle Pressure About Having Kids How to Prepare for the Real Changes of Parenthood How to Know if You’re Ready for Children How to Separate Society’s Timeline From Your Own How to Support Friends Struggling With Fertility The milestones that matter most are the ones that feel true to you, not the ones dictated by outside voices. Fulfillment is not found in comparison but in living with intention, compassion, and alignment to your own values. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 00:45 When Are You Going to Have Kids? 03:53 So, Do You Want to Have Kids? 07:57 Are You Prepared to Raise Kids? 12:31 A Different Mindset on Being a Parent 16:23 Delaying Parenthood Because of Financial Constraints 21:16 Parenthood Equates to Success 23:20 Can a Child Fix a Broken Relationship? 29:02 Are You Willing to Sacrifice Your Career to Become a Parent? 32:32 Live the Life You Want For Yourself Episode Resources: https://www.radhidevlukia.com/    / @radhidevlu     / radhidevlukia     / radhidevlukia1     / radhidevlukia1     / jayshetty     / jayshetty   https://x.com/jayshetty   / shettyjay      / @jayshettypodcast   http://jayshetty.me