Why You React The Way You Do (And How To Change It) | Maria Ruberto, @salutegenics

Why do we react the way we do? Why is lasting change so difficult, even when we genuinely want things to be different? In this episode of the ‪@LetsCheckInPodcast‬, Suzie McErvale sits down with psychologist and ‪@salutegenics‬ founder Maria Ruberto to explore the powerful connection between biology, behaviour, compassion and resilience. Drawing on more than 30 years of experience in psychology, leadership and wellbeing, Maria explains how our brains and nervous systems are designed to protect us, how understanding our biology can remove shame and self-blame, and why meaningful change begins with awareness rather than willpower. Together they discuss: • The concept of Biology Before Behaviour • How neuroscience helps us understand our reactions • Why compassion is a strength, not a weakness • The surprising link between optimism and longevity • How language shapes children's development and resilience • The impact of social media on how we think about ourselves • Compassionate leadership and building trust in relationships • Practical ways to support emotional regulation and mental fitness Maria also shares the personal story behind Salutegenics, the influence of her Italian upbringing, and how a simple family tradition inspired a lifelong commitment to helping people flourish. Whether you're navigating change, supporting others through uncertainty, leading a team, raising children, or simply trying to understand yourself more deeply, this conversation offers practical insights grounded in science and delivered with warmth, wisdom and hope. 🔗 Learn more about Maria Ruberto and Salutegenics: https://www.salutegenics.com.au/ Competition Details Season 3 is proudly supported by Pulito Group. To celebrate, they’re giving one lucky business the chance to win $1,000 towards a professional commercial clean for a retail, hospitality or commercial space. To enter, follow pulito_group on Instagram, like their competition post, and comment by tagging a business owner or someone opening or refreshing a commercial space. 🎙️ About the Let's Check In Podcast The Let's Check In Podcast explores the uncertain middle of modern life through candid conversations, expert insights and practical tools for navigating change, growth and wellbeing. Subscribe for new episodes and conversations that help us make sense of life's challenges, opportunities and everything in between. #LetsCheckInPodcast #MentalFitness #Neuroscience #Psychology #Compassion #Leadership #Wellbeing #Resilience #Optimism #MentalHealth CHAPTERS 00:00 Why We React the Way We Do 02:54 Biology Before Behaviour 07:35 "This Is Not My Fault" 09:40 Pulito Group Sponsor Message 11:32 The Science of Optimism 18:13 Social Media & Negative Thinking 19:19 Can Optimism Be Learned? 22:02 Maria's Story & The Meaning of Salute 26:30 The Language We Use With Children 29:38 Compassion Changes Everything 29:54 The Neuroscience of Connection 35:15 Why Compassion Takes Strength 36:00 A Powerful Workplace Example 40:15 Living With Uncertainty 43:10 What Stayed With Me 44:08 Final Thoughts