Ep 068: Stop Being Afraid of Who You’re Becoming

Ask me anything about healing your mother wound and I’ll answer it on the podcast. Click here to ask. - https://forms.gle/4NNiN5acJPsYya3X7 *************************************** How we can stay connected and work together! 1. Grab my free mini-course ➡️ https://bit.ly/BlackMotherWoundHealing 2. Work with me one-on-one ➡️ https://bit.ly/bmwoneononecoaching *************************************** Feeling scared doesn’t mean you’re doing something wrong, it usually means you’re doing something new. And if you’re healing from a mother wound, that fear can feel even louder because you didn’t grow up feeling safe. But you don’t have to wait until you’re not afraid. You just need to know that you’ve got your own back. That kind of safety doesn’t come from waiting for the perfect moment. It comes from showing up for yourself, little by little. It looks like being patient when fear creeps in, instead of beating yourself up. When you keep promises to yourself, doing the thing you said you would, or just resting when your body says it’s tired, you’re rebuilding trust. You’re teaching that younger version of you that she’s no longer alone. That someone finally sees her and protects her. Every time you show up even with shaky hands and a nervous heart, you’re proving to yourself that fear doesn’t get to call the shots anymore. You do. So no, you don’t need to be fearless. You just need to be kind to yourself as you keep going. In this episode, I’m getting real about where I’m at in my healing and how hard it can be to even see the woman I’m supposed to be. We talk about how fear and all those sneaky limiting beliefs keep us stuck in the same old loops, why having a safe, loving relationship with yourself is everything, and how ambition can actually be a part of your healing. Pull up, listen in, and let’s have an honest conversation about showing up for yourself, facing your fears, and stepping into your full power. "You have to be constantly doing it. You have to be constantly proving to yourself and the little girl in you that you got your back." – Jennifer Arnise Topics Covered: (00:00:00) Episode Snippet (00:00:09) Welcome to the Black Mother Wound podcast (00:03:50) You can’t shortcut your way through healing (00:05:08) See who you’re becoming (00:07:18) Build safety by trusting yourself (00:08:25) Keep showing up, even when scared (00:10:41) Only you can hold yourself accountable (00:13:50) Confidence comes from consistent action (00:17:32) Dreams reconnect you to yourself (00:19:13) Ambition will expose your fears (00:20:52) People will rise to meet your growth (00:23:25) You can do it scared (00:25:29) Let your gifts be seen (00:26:00) Be your own biggest cheerleader (00:28:00) Take care of you Key Takeaways: "You cannot shortcut the lesson. You cannot fake learning the lesson, you cannot cheat the lesson, you're gonna have to get the lesson." "You can do things that scare you. You can walk into unknown places. You can do new things. You can dream bigger dreams." "They crumble under the pressure of the discomfort of moving out of their comfort zone because they don't keep themselves safe." "There’s nothing more intimate than the dreams that you have for yourself." "Safety is the foundation of healing your mother wound." "You cannot wait not to be scared." "You have talent, you have gifts, and they deserve to be exposed, they deserve to be put on the front street, and you deserve to go right along with them." "All the things that you accomplish are just an extension of you, who you've always been, and it's your responsibility to move in that direction." DISCLAIMER: I am not a licensed psychologist, medical doctor, or health care professional and my services do not replace the care of psychologists, doctors or other healthcare professionals. All opinions expressed here are my own. If you feel you are in any danger of harming yourself please call 911. I am not providing health care, medical or nutritional therapy services, or attempting to diagnose, treat, prevent or cure any physical, mental or emotional issue, disease or condition. All opinions are my own and based on my personal lived experience. Connect on Instagram:   / blackmotherwound