You Can’t Heal What You Refuse to Feel—Healing Quotes—Deborah Moffatt | Ep 251

In this episode of Relatable Wisdom, I’m joined by Deborah Moffatt, host of The Healing Version Podcast, who unpacks the powerful mantra: “You cannot heal what you refuse to feel.” Deborah shares the deeply personal journey that gave rise to this insight, reflecting on her upbringing and the process of forgiving her parents for the stability and protection she felt was missing in childhood. We dive into what it really means to “feel” our pain, exploring the difference between numbing, denial, and actually facing our wounds head-on. Deborah opens up about her own healing work around abandonment issues and details the active steps she’s taken toward growth, including therapy, journaling, and self-accountability. Listeners will come away with a timely reminder that healing isn’t passive—time alone doesn’t mend our pain; it’s intentional action that makes the difference. This conversation is a must-listen for anyone searching for guidance through emotional hurdles or seeking the courage to feel and heal. Every episode has more to it than what you hear. Join the Relatable Wisdom newsletter to get thoughtful reflections, behind-the-scenes extras, and personal notes that don’t make it into the show. It’s a calm space to stay inspired between listens. Sign up here: ⁠https://relatablewisdom.com/join⁠ Connect With Deborah Moffatt Website: ⁠https://thehealingversion.com⁠ Chapters 00:00 Introduction And Welcome 00:23 Meet Deborah Moffatt 00:42 Sharing The Favorite Quote 01:04 Childhood Story And Forgiveness 01:44 What “Feel To Heal” Means 03:03 Mindset And Language In Healing 05:26 Differentiating Feeling From Agonizing 06:32 Deborah On Facing Abandonment 08:24 The Role Of Therapy And Journaling 10:07 Accountability And Denial 11:05 Denial In Everyday Conversation 11:34 Family Dynamics And Avoidance 12:13 Physical Impact Of Unaddressed Emotions 12:46 The Myth Of Time Healing All Wounds 13:46 The Healing Analogy 15:05 Deborah’s Podcast And Its Mission 16:08 Family Dysfunction And Gossip 17:57 Speaking Boldly And Accountability 19:58 Bad Behavior And Making Excuses 20:55 Why People Lash Out 21:16 Where To Listen And Subscribe 22:30 Closing And Farewell