Переезд в Швецию по любви обернулся депрессией, одиночеством и полной потерей себя

"Who am I here? Nobody in a coat." "How do you avoid going nuts when you emigrate? And to put it politely, how do you maintain your mental health?" Love, Sweden, a new life—it sounds wonderful until you find yourself in a country where you don't have any friends, your profession no longer works, your partner's family keeps their distance, and depression sets in. In this episode for Brusnika TV @elenabaturinaproduction, we talk with Vita Wänkkö about a move that initially seemed like a romantic story, but then knocked the wind out from under her. The episode where we talk more about the move itself is    • Почему в Швеции не вешают шторы? Вся правд...   Vita talks about how she came to Sweden "for love" and fell into a state from which she couldn't escape for almost three years. We discussed loneliness in emigration, loss of status, the feeling of "I'm a nobody here," Swedish isolation, psychotherapy, antidepressants, and the moment when you have to admit: love alone doesn't save you from adaptation. We talked about why pillars crumble in emigration: language, work, friends, familiar roles, money, profession, and a sense of self-worth. Vita recalls how, after experience in tourism and the cultural sphere, she went to work in a restaurant and a store, walking 20,000-30,000 steps per shift, unloading goods, and literally picking herself up again. This episode is about how to avoid falling into loneliness, why you need to find your community, why Swedish isn't a formality but a way to return to reality, and how, after hitting rock bottom, you can reconnect with your business, tours, orders, and a life where you're no longer a lost "plus one." Alexandra's Instagram:   / borovik_coach   Guest Vita Wänkkö:   / vita.vidit   Support the channel: https://boosty.to/borovika/donate Alexandra's Vlog:    / @aleksandraborovika   01:40 — A holiday romance in Cyprus that led to Sweden 03:34 — Why moving wasn't a vacation, but a difficult experience 05:02 — What pillars crumble after emigration 06:32 — "I have exactly zero friends here" 07:30 — Loss of status: "Who am I here? "Nobody in a coat" 08:06 — Moving for love and the feeling: "From now on, you'll have to swim on your own" 10:55 — Deep depression, weight gain, and self-blame 12:21 — Psychotherapy, antidepressants, and 17 help sessions 13:39 — Swedish family nearby, but no support 14:03 — Eight invitations to a fika that no one showed up to 15:27 — When it got easier: Russian-language events and new people 17:08 — Why a person in exile needs a person 18:28 — Main advice: don't sit alone 20:15 — Swedish introversion and our habit of going straight to the bottom 22:09 — Work, money, and living on a husband's support 23:21 — How Vita found her first job in a restaurant 24:29 — Higher education and starting from scratch 25:27 — 20–30 thousand steps per shift and language through Job 26:31 — When a Profession is Lost 29:07 — "I Don't Want to Clean Toilets Anymore" 29:38 — Returning to the Profession 31:33 — Tours at Uppsala University 34:48 — Why Swedish is Essential for a Full Life in Sweden On this channel, you'll meet ordinary people—emigrants, old and new—and their stories of moving, becoming, and the unique aspects of life in different countries. Stories of ups and downs, starting a business, and working as a cleaner. Is it worth moving at all, and where? What to Consider When Moving Alexandra   / borovik_coach   You can buy us a coffee here https://boosty.to/borovika/donate The channel where I host a vlog about me and my life    / @aleksandraborovika   Full episode on the channel "Our People Abroad"