Why Your Twin Flame Might Just Be an Avoidant Attachment A Therapist Explains

Is your twin flame actually an avoidant attachment style? In this video, a therapist with 30+ years in private practice breaks down the twin flame myth — and why the lore around twin flames, divine timing, the runner and chaser, and the 11:11 "soul recognition" can keep you stuck in a painful, on-again, off-again relationship far longer than you should be. If you've been told that a hot-and-cold relationship that hurts is proof you've found your twin flame, this is the honest conversation you may need. We'll cover the difference between twin flames and avoidant attachment, why intermittent reinforcement makes an unreliable partner feel addictive (the same mechanism behind a slot machine), and how anxious attachment and avoidant attachment create the exact "runner and chaser" dynamic the twin flame story celebrates. This is for anyone navigating midlife divorce, dating after divorce, breakup recovery, or letting go of someone who can't show up consistently. The goal isn't to take the magic away from you. It's to make sure the idea of a destined connection never gets used to trap you somewhere that isn't right for you. In this video: • What twin flames are supposed to be (the full lore, explained fairly) • Soulmate vs. twin flame — the key difference • Why "divine timing" and the runner/chaser stages keep people waiting • Avoidant attachment and anxious attachment, explained simply • Intermittent reinforcement: why unpredictable love feels addictive • The real questions to ask before you build a life with someone 💬 Share your story in the comments — I read them. 🔔 Subscribe for honest talk on midlife divorce, dating, and healing after heartbreak. PSA: Even though I am a licensed therapist, my videos are for educational purposed ONLY. The video is not a replacement for individual psychotherapy. I always recommend seeking out your own individual care if accessible. LINKS: Website: https://www.goodingwellness.com/ Instagram:   / goodingwell.  . Facebook:   / goodingwelln.  . Blog Post: https://www.goodingwellness.com/post/...