When the Abuser IS the Police — Who Do You Call?

For most of us, the police are who we call when we're in danger. But what if the danger shares their uniform — and the people you'd report him to are the ones he clocks on with every morning? There's a statistic that does the rounds online — that 40% of police families experience domestic abuse, fifteen times the rate of everyone else. It's shocking. It's also built on two self-reported American studies from the early 1990s, one of which never even defined what "violence" meant. In this video I start by pulling that number apart, because if we're going to talk about this honestly, we have to bin the junk first. But here's the thing — once you strip away the dodgy stat, what's left is arguably worse, and far better evidenced. In 2020 the Centre for Women's Justice filed a formal super-complaint about how forces handle domestic abuse when the accused is one of their own. In 2022 the official investigation agreed: there were systemic deficiencies in the response. And the detail that stopped me cold — nearly half the women who came forward were themselves serving officers or police staff, legally unable to complain against their own force. Drawing on 23 years watching human behaviour up close, I break down what the evidence really shows, and why an abuser with a warrant card is the coercive-control problem I've covered before — only now with the authority of the state behind it. In this video: The viral "40%" statistic — where it came from and why it doesn't survive scrutiny What the data honestly supports — and what it doesn't The 2020 super-complaint — and the official finding of systemic failure The reporting trap — why victims who are themselves officers have fewer rights than the public Does the job supplies the tools? — desensitizing violence. The bottom line — this isn't about bad apples; it's about a system that closes ranks This isn't cop-bashing, and it isn't a shock-stat hit piece. It's an honest look at what happens when the people meant to protect you are the ones you need protecting from — and why the institution's instinct to protect its own is the real story. If you or someone you know is affected by domestic abuse, you're not alone — in the UK the National Domestic Abuse Helpline is free, 24 hours, on 0808 2000 247. —————————————— 🔔 Subscribe for evidence-led content from someone who's spent 23 years watching this up close —————————————— #DomesticAbuse #CoerciveControl #PolicingUK #PoliceAccountability #DomesticViolenceAwareness #ThatGearGuy #WomensSafety #TrustTheEvidence #UKPolice #CentreForWomensJustice