"The Pie Just Gets Bigger”: Parenting, Identity, and Emotional Survival in Schools with Dr....

What happens when parents, teachers, and students all feel pressure to “get it right” — but nobody was ever given the manual? In this deeply reflective episode of Classroom Narratives, Dr. Joey Weisler sits down with clinical psychologist Dr. Julie Davelman to explore the emotional realities underneath modern education: parent burnout, frustration tolerance, identity formation, perfectionism, divorce, college transition, and the overwhelming pressure families carry while trying to support children “correctly.” Together, they unpack why so many students struggle not because they lack ability, but because they lack space to fail, recover, and develop resilience. The conversation moves beyond surface-level conversations about achievement and instead asks what children, teachers, and parents actually need in order to function, grow, and feel emotionally safe. From “good enough parenting” to the myth of work-life balance, Dr. Davelman offers a compassionate but grounded perspective that reminds listeners something essential: Humans are far more complicated than the manual ever promised. 🔗 Show Resources 📌 Dr. Julie Davelman profile with Abrams Psychological Services 📌 BLOG: Can this help you? – Learn psych tips and techniques that can help you in everyday life 📌 The Emotional Lives of Teenagers: Raising Connected, Capable, and Compassionate Adolescents by Lisa Damour, PhD 📌 Facebook and Linkedin Dr. Julie Davelman 📌 Classroom Narratives segments: ~From Teacher to Attorney: Frances Shefter on Advocacy, Equity, and the Stress-Free IEP ~The Pooped-Out Teacher in Loco Parentis: Dr. Dre on Presence, Consistency & Care ~Meeting Your Inner-Hero and Healing Your Inner-Child: with Ron Yap @mentalhealthceo ~Empathy Without Self-Abandonment: Unhooking from Survival Mode in Leadership and Teaching with Leila Boutaleb Brousse Chapters: 0:00:00 - Dr. Julie Davelman: licensed psychologist 0:05:30 - Preparedness for student life transitions 0:11:55 - Helping students through disillusionment 0:13:45 - Roles of parenting in education 0:29:13 - Overcorrection in education 0:35:10 - Models of meaningful classroom change 0:38:38 - Frustration tolerance 0:47:45 - Managing nervous system responses 0:51:30 - Concluding topics and segment-close out