Why we are Child free| Our Story

#childfree #nokids #childless Check out my websites: https://abbasheart.net/ https://www.shalombewithyou.com/ Or my books: Breaking Free from Demonic Forces https://www.amazon.com/Breaking-Free-... The Trinity Bible https://www.amazon.com/Trinity-Bible-... Or…my Social media: Instagram: snacksizegrl   / snacksizegrl   Facebook: Julia Shalom Jordan https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?... Twitter: @Juliashalom Julia’s Life Verse: “But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise; God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong.” 1 Corinthians 1:27 In this video, I discuss why I’m child-free: 1.I didn’t have a joyful childhood. It wasn’t playful, adventurous, or full of options. There was a lot of “No, we can’t afford that.” I always felt if you couldn’t afford to have a kid, you shouldn’t, and I’ve never felt like I could truly afford raising a child in the way I’d like. 2.My father let us know we were a burden. I did not want to perpetuate the trauma of not being wanted and I also didn’t want to weigh down a marriage that feels blessed. 3.I was the eldest child in my family. This meant I took the role of my father when he wasn’t there. I was my mom’s: Babysitter Best Friend Counselor Housekeeper Husband My inner child needs healing and having children only adds to the pressure and stress I escaped from. 4.My parents didn’t create a culture which encouraged future legacy. 5.I had a very late start on life and was thrown out into the world without support or guidance. This left me feeling lost and totally unprepared for leading a vulnerable child. 6.In my childbearing years, I was a stripper. I did feel I was a proper role model. 7. My husband is 12 years older than me and did not want children. I found someone I could build a life with. Of course, I think John is wonderful and if he was on-board with being a father, I was open to having HIS kid. He was not and as a loving wife, I honored HIS choice. 8.Having children is a HUGE responsibility. I take that seriously! Being child-free has many stigmas. People judge us not knowing what we went through and why we are making this very individual, life-changing choice. Yes, God said to be fruitful and multiply. But that can include your business, increasing His Kingdom and a plethora of other life-giving categories. What we don’t need to do is pressure people who aren’t called to be parents to be something they are not. As a Christian, have you felt pressured to have children? What are your thoughts on this? I’d love to have an adult discussion in the comments below.