Parentification and Adult Anxiety

Were you the ‘responsible one’ in your family growing up? If you often feel anxious, overwhelmed, or like everything falls on your shoulders, this video might explain why. Let's break down how parentification shapes adult anxiety and what you can do to start healing. The Ultimate Boundary Course: https://www.awakenjoy.life/boundary Free PDF: Transform your Negative Core Beliefs: https://barbara-heffernan.mykajabi.co... RESOURCES FOR MY VIEWERS _____________ Free Quiz: Your Boundary Personality Type: https://www.boundarypersonalityquiz.com Free Webinar: Rewiring Your Brain for Joy and Confidence: https://www.awakenjoy.life/rewire-you... Transformational Program: Roadmap to Joy and Authentic Confidence: https://www.awakenjoy.life/roadmap Sign up for a Free Trial on Virtual EMDR - https://bit.ly/bhvirtualemdr Use Promo Code: AWAKENJOY20 for 20% off. The program code must be put into the promo code box when you checkout for the discount! This is an online service I have used and I support! BetterHelp 1:1 Counseling: https://betterhelp.com/awakenjoy I have personally used their services and have recently become an affiliate. Using this link enables you to a discount of 10% off the first month. Betterhelp sponsors some of my videos, which does help to support this channel. Say hi on social: Instagram, Facebook and Tiktok: @awakenjoy.life My website: https://www.awakenjoy.life NOTE: This description contains affiliate links for the Virtual EMDR site and for betterhelp.com. While this channel may earn a minimal sum when the viewer uses these affiliate links, the viewer is in NO WAY obligated to use these links; the viewer is not charged extra for these links and, in fact, receives a discount over the regular pricing of these programs. I have used both Virtual EMDR and betterhelp.com. Disclaimer: This video was created by Barbara Heffernan, LCSW for educational purposes only. These videos are not diagnostic and provide no individual consultation. Consumption of these materials is for your own education and any medical, psychological, or professional care decisions should be made between you and your primary care doctor or another provider that you are engaged with. Barbara Heffernan is not available for individual consultation via YouTube, social media, or email, and provides services only in the manner mentioned above. ☀️☀️CHAPTERS☀️☀️ 0:00 Introduction – Parentification and anxiety 0:53 Core characteristics of parentified children 1:49 The impact of self-reliance and lack of trust 2:53 “I was the most capable one” – how that mindset formed 3:55 Why these patterns contribute to anxiety 4:30 Step 1: Identify negative core beliefs 5:04 “My needs don’t matter” – the most common belief 6:06 Step 2: Accept your powerlessness 7:27 Emotional boundaries – bubble visualization 8:50 Step 3: Let go of uncontrollable outcomes 10:02 Example: Trying to control your child’s career 10:59 Example: Friend in an abusive relationship 11:47 The need to tolerate increased anxiety during healing