The Midlife Friendship Breakup, Part 2: Toxic Friends, Shifting Seasons, and Moving On

Friendship breakups don’t exactly come with casseroles or sympathy cards (though honestly… they should). In this follow-up, Chrissi and familiar favorite Sarah are getting into the messy stuff—like toxic friends, the kind of rejection that can still transport you right back to high school, and why, at this age, none of us have the energy for one-sided friendships anymore. It’s real, a little raw, and sometimes hilarious… kind of like seeing your friends’ brunch pics on Instagram and realizing you weren’t invited. (00:00) 🎙️ Welcome Back (Again) – Chrissi drags Sarah back to the mic like it’s a Bravo reunion episode. (05:00) 🚗 Life Lately – Uber rides, drunk passengers, and a Dolly Parton musical (06:00) 💔 Why Friendship Breakups Hurt More Than Romantic Breakups– Spoiler: the first heartbreak probably wasn’t your high school boyfriend. (08:00) 🏖️ The Lake Trip That Shall Not Be Named – Chrissi’s high-school snub story that still stings. (10:00) ⚖️ The Three Pillars of Female Friendship – Symmetry, support, secrecy… aka the holy trinity of “don’t screw this up.” (15:00) 📱 When Friends Drop the Ball – From leaving parties early to forgetting recommendation letters, we’ve all dropped by ball with friends (19:00) 🔐 Secrets & Trust – Why girlfriends are the vault… until someone’s Peter Pettigrew energy shows up. (23:00) 🔥 Perimenopause & Friendship – Rage texts, ghosting group chats, and why hormones are the unofficial third wheel. (26:00) 🌀 Friendship Circles – Inner circle, outer circle, and the “text-back-three-days-later” circle we all know too well. (28:00) ⚡ Toxic Friendships – Subtle digs only you notice, gossip as a love language, and weekend benders that should’ve ended in 2007. (32:00) 🤝 Friend Poaching – When you introduce friends and suddenly you’re chopped liver. Betrayal, but make it social climbing. (36:00) 🏛️ Sororities & Status – Sisterhood or just buying your way into Mean Girls: The Sequel? (37:00) 💎 Friendships After 40 – Fewer friends, deeper vibes, and Taylor Swift reminding us our energy is a luxury item. (40:00) 🚩 Dealbreakers – One-uppers, oversharers, and women who treat your kids like their therapists. Hard pass. (42:00) 🏡 Bad Roommate Storytime – Sarah’s cautionary tale: never let chaos rent your spare bedroom. (44:00) ✨ Reciprocity Matters – Friendship isn’t a game of tag—you shouldn’t have to keep chasing. (46:00) 🌍 Finding New Friends – Midlife matchmaking apps, the peach quote, and the hope that your besties might still be out there. (47:00) ⭐ Found at 40 Needs You – Apple reviews, international listeners, and the shock that a certain guest hasn’t left a review yet. ✨ Hit follow, send this episode to your group chat, and leave a glowing review 📱 Check out @foundat40podcast on Instagram for extras, outtakes, and mild oversharing 🎙️ Listen on Apple Podcasts and Spotify