4 Horsemen & Their Antidotes: Gottman Therapists React to This is 40

Are you seeing Gottman's 4 Horsemen destroying your relationship — contempt, criticism, defensiveness, or stonewalling? Every horseman has an antidote, and in this video 3 Gottman-trained therapists show you exactly how they look in a real relationship. Using clips from the movie "This is 40," Laura Silverstein LCSW, Anna Thompson LPC, and Ruth Conviser LCSW identify each of the Four Horsemen as they play out between the couple — then explain what the Gottman antidotes would look like if applied in session. What you'll learn: ✔️ How to recognize all 4 horsemen in your relationship ✔️ The Gottman antidote for each horseman (and how to actually use it) ✔️ What 3 Gottman therapists would say to this couple in real life ✔️ Why knowing the antidotes matters even if your partner won't go to therapy 👥 Therapists featured: • Laura Silverstein LCSW — Certified Gottman Couples Therapist (20+ years) • Anna Thompson LPC — Level 3 Gottman Trained • Ruth Conviser LCSW — Level 3 Gottman Trained 📌 You can fix your relationship alone — and understanding the Four Horsemen is one of the most important first steps. 🔗 Work with our team (Philadelphia Main Line + telehealth PA): https://mainlinecounselingpartners.com 📖 Related: Gottman's 4 Horsemen Explained (full walkthrough):    • Gottman's 4 Horsemen Explained (Criticism,...   👉 Timestamps: 0:00 – How John Gottman Predicts Divorce with the Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse 2:24 – Therapists React: This Is 30 6:31 – Danger Signs in the Relationship 7:31 – Glimmers of Hope 8:18 – How Gottman Therapists Coach Clients with 4 Horsemen Antidotes 8:44 -- Stop Criticism with Gentle Startup 9:45 -- Stop Defensiveness by Taking Accountability 10:38 -- Stop Flooding/Stonewalling by Self-Soothing 15:14 -- Stop Contempt by Describing Your Needs (not your partner) 18:01 -- Relational Humility for When Communication Skills Don't Work 19:01 -- Prognosis: Laura, Ruth and Anna Share Their Prediction Laura Silverstein helps couples have healthy happy relationships drawing on 30 years of experience as a licensed therapist. She offers science backed relationship advice for busy couples who value emotional growth. Now you can learn these skills yourself for FREE 💕 💬 Comment below: What other videos would you like to see? Disclaimer: The content on this channel is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for evaluation and/or treatment from a licensed professional. Watching these videos does not establish a therapist-client relationship. If you're in crisis, or think you might be in an abusive relationship seek help from a licensed professional or emergency services. 🔔 Don't forget to like, subscribe, and hit the bell for more free relationship advice. #GottmanMethod #FourHorsemen #GottmanFourHorsemen #RelationshipAdvice #CouplesTherapy #TherapistReacts