ПОЧЕМУ МЕНЯ ВСЁ БЕСИТ? // Беседы с Артемом Карпавичусом

Artem Karpavichus is a practicing psychologist, a Master's degree holder (Department of Psychotherapy and Psychological Counseling), and an author. 📌 My special materials "Emotional Intelligence": https://karpavichus.com/intellekt-emo... https://karpavichus.com/intellekt-emo... https://karpavichus.com/intellekt-emo... 📕 MY BOOK "It's impossible to break up, but it's impossible to stay" (AST Publishing House) is available at any bookstore, on WB, and on Litres https://www.litres.ru/book/artem-karp... If you'd like to participate in the recording of "Conversations with Artem Karpavichus," contact us through this Telegram bot 🤖 ⬇️⬇️⬇️ https://t.me/karpavichus_bot Have you ever held back your anger for a long time, trying to be "good," and then lashing out at those closest to you? Many psychologists recommend resolving anger ecologically—by beating a pillow or yelling. But what if you feel like this is just a pretty cover for yet another emotional repression? In this video, we'll conduct an open psychological consultation with Evgeniy (37). He's stuck in a vicious cycle: his background aggression is at its peak, other drivers on the road irritate him, and random people on the minibus literally make him seethe with indignation. At the same time, Evgeniy experiences a strong fear of conflict and is afraid to defend his boundaries in the moment. We'll examine in detail the three fundamental causes of chronic anger. Why is constant anger a marker that your psyche views the world as a totally unsafe place? How does the size of our ego make us perceive other people's stupidity as a personal insult? And what are "psychological allergens," knowing which can permanently reduce the level of stress in your life? And, as always, I'll give clear practical recommendations and name a reference book that will help you restructure your thinking and stop charging your "aggression battery." Enjoy watching! I'd be grateful for your likes—they help the channel grow and motivate me to film even more useful analyses 😉 ⏱ Timestamps (Episodes) 00:00 Introduction: Evgeny's call. The vicious cycle of suppressing anger and lashing out at loved ones 00:58 Why does the advice to "beat a pillow" feel like yet another form of emotional suppression? 02:14 Request: How to calibrate your aggression so you don't boil inside? 03:12 Point 1: Anger as a basic defense. Why do we even need this emotion? 04:24 If you're 80% aggressive, it means you're fundamentally unsafe. 05:58 What Evgeny is really afraid of: fear of conflict, money in church, and threats from men. 06:55 Point 2: Ego Size. How our Ego makes us hurt by other people's actions. 07:47 Road rage: "I believe everyone on the road should take into account that I'm driving." 12:20 Point 3: Psychological allergens. What does it mean to be truly mindful? 13:11 Artyom's personal example with horses and a fear of heights: how to avoid going where it's dangerous. 16:04 Analysis of a situation on a minibus. How does the ego prevent us from accepting other people's behavior? 18:29 How reducing the ego helps us avoid taking other people's stupidity personally 20:08 Practical recommendation: Albert Ellis' book on working with anger and anxiety 22:08 A gift for Evgeny: a course on emotional intelligence 22:56 Conclusion and how to attend an open consultation See you next Saturday at 10:00! 👍 (Remember the LIKE? 😉 :) Creators of the lecture: Script, presenter - Artem Karpavichus https://karpavichus.com Video design, SFX, VFX - Sasha Pareto https://t.me/sasha_pareto Telegram bot developer https://t.me/bibeda #psychology #artemkarpavichus #aggression #anger #angermanagement #emotionalintelligence #emotionsuppression #fearofconflict #ego #relationshippsychology #onlinepsychologist #howtodealwithanger