The Dying Never Regret Working Harder. They Regret This | Clinical Psychologist: Janet Phang

Not one dying patient ever told her they wished they'd worked harder. I've thought about that a lot since. Janet Phang is a clinical psychologist. For over 20 years she's sat with people at their lowest, including the dying. We talk about success, self-worth, burnout, and why nothing ever feels like enough. For years I kept score. My PSLE. My L1R5. My university. My law firm. My billable hours. My revenue. My husband gave me a trip for my 40th. I filled it with KPIs. Rushed from yoga to the spa so the holiday felt productive. Then three years ago my revenue took a big dip. It hit hard. And it asked the question I'd spent a whole career dodging. If I'm not my achievements, who am I? So I asked Janet what most of us never say out loud. Why does success feel so empty? And why is it never enough? In this episode, we discuss: ◼ Why success never feels like enough ◼ Self-worth vs self-esteem, and why the difference matters ◼ Why men take retrenchment harder than women ◼ Why jealousy is a good thing ◼ Why social media makes you feel like you're losing ◼ The everyday question that shapes your worth without you noticing ◼ The one thing Janet's dying patients regret most I still work after my kids are asleep so I feel like I've done enough. If you do that too, this one's for you. Nobody dies wishing they'd worked more. So why do we live like they will? New to the series? Watch: Part 1: How to Not Screw Up Your Kids (A Clinical Psychologist Explains) | Janet Phang →    • How to Not Screw Up Your Kids (A Clinical ...   Part 2: Why I Went For Therapy | Clinical Psychologist Janet Phang shares The Truth About Therapy →    • Why I Went For Therapy | Clinical Psycholo...   Connect with Dr Janet Phang: Website: https://www.psychologymatters.com.sg/... Follow me: Instagram:   / theshulinlee   LinkedIn:   / shulinlee   DISCLAIMER This podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and does not constitute medical, psychological, or professional advice. Please consult a qualified professional for advice specific to your situation. 00:00 Opening 01:31 High achievers & self-worth 03:01 Retrenchment and the loss of identity 04:53 Why men take retrenchment harder than women 07:00 What dying patients actually regret 08:27 Shulin’s Phuket holiday story 09:24 How to untangle from work-defined success 13:04 Why other people’s success feels like our failure 15:56 Social media & comparison 17:34 Has social media made anxiety worse? 19:52 The antidote to “never enough” 25:39 Final takeaways