The Respect Test Follow-Up: What To Do When He Still Won't Change

When he forgets every time you ask — is it because he can't, or because he won't? That one question changes everything. In this live Q&A, I'm going straight to the comments on my Respect Test video and answering the ones that stopped me cold. In this session: — The man who withdraws and "forgets" what you asked: what it actually means — Why the word "test" is distracting you from what really matters — The hardest truth: you cannot make his disrespect stop — but here's what you CAN do — "I'm seeing a little change now… can I trust it?" — how to tell if it's real — The Reality Check: You don't need bruises to have evidence. If you don't breathe normally anymore, that IS the data. ⏱️ CHAPTERS0:00 — Welcome & weekly live intro 1:26 — How I'm using these lives: behind the scenes + your comments 2:49 — "He withdraws and forgets what I asked" — Can't or Won't? 5:20 — What to do when the pattern keeps repeating 7:20 — "Don't test your partner" — reframing what a test actually is 9:28 — "How do I make the disrespect STOP?" 10:23 — The hard truth: you can't stop him, but here's the only question that matters 11:00 — Why you keep looking for "hard evidence" — and why you don't need it 14:02 — "I'm seeing some change now — can I trust it?" 15:50 — Subscribe + see you next Thursday 📌 MENTIONED IN THIS VIDEO: → The Respect Test video:    • Ask Him This Once… Then Watch What Happens   → How to know if the change is real:    • He Says He's Changing… Here’s How You Know...   Not therapy. Not a replacement for therapy. After 35 years as a licensed couples therapist, I'm here to give you the real talk I couldn't give in a session. Every week I show up live on Thursdays and upload new videos to help you stop surviving your marriage and start seeing it clearly. Subscribe so you don't miss next Thursday's live. 👇    / @drelenasherwood