The Lovers in 6 Minutes

The Lovers Upright: Relationships, union, the coming together of complimentary opposites. Marriage or (wait for it) a healthy parting of ways. A decision requiring all elements to be in agreement & harmony. Deep understand of people and their motivations. Your relationships reflect your personal values. Experiencing freedom and the self free of restrictions and opinions of others. Relationships mirroring your own sense of worth. Balance, integration of opposite or diverse elements. The feminine and masculine. Being open about your love, embracing all aspects of the self, the feminine, masculine, gentle, muscular, vulnerable, ambitious, all elements serve the whole. A healthy decision. Fruitful relationships. Melody and harmony. Best Course of Action: Love yourself and others with an open heart. Make the decision after understanding all the elements involved. Choose healthy relationships which make you feel bigger. Love all aspects of yourself, understanding the complexity of the human psyche. Release the fear and guilt, it is no longer needed. Allow yourself to grow, expand. Engage in loving relationships. Marry, accept the proposal or part from a relationship of that parting is good for both parties. Intimate relationships as an expression of connectedness and union. The Lovers Reversed: A toxic or hurtful relationship. Being hurt by another. A good relationship out of balance or struggling. Teenage/infantile fantasy instead of mature love and understanding. Fear of deep, mature love. Hurtful actions in the name of “love,” like stalking, obsessing, passive-aggression. Disappointment, quarrels, fights, a break-up or divorce. Sexual problems or fear of intimacy. Using the expression love as a weapon or leverage. Lack of trust. Not loving the self, prompting the lashing out to another. Imbalance, not accepting the feminine of masculine in yourself. Being pushed to make a big decision when you are not ready. If you get this, it requires you to be honest with yourself. Are you engaging in hurtful, predatory, or manipulative behavior in the name of “love”? Seek professional therapy or help if this is the case. Best Course of Action Reversed: Simply, a break up or end of a relationship. If in a committed relationship, work to reframe the terms. Time to do the work to repair and renegotiate. Take responsibility for your mistakes. Accept that things are in flux and you may not be able to right it alone, it will take effort of everyone’s part. Withdraw or, if you use sex as a misdirection for true intimacy, step back from that behavior. Do not accept a proposal or wait until you have a better grasp on the terms and elements. You don’t have to love everybody. It is okay not to be in a relationship. Accept that being alone is okay!