學會駕馭情緒能量，朝你想要的人生邁進《情緒使你更強大》| 天下文化Podcast 書房憲場 EP80

In this episode of the CommonWealth Culture Podcast "Xie Wen-hsien's Study Room," host Hsieh Wen-hsien invites Hung Shu-heng to rethink the nature of emotions and why people are often trapped by them, starting with the book *Emotions Make You Stronger*. At the beginning of the program, Hsieh Wen-hsien shared how deeply he felt after reading the book. He initially thought it was just a book about emotional management, but later discovered that it actually reinterpreted human emotional responses from the perspective of neuroscience and energy processes. Hung Shu-heng also mentioned that emotions are actually a form of "neuro-energy." When people face stress or stimuli, the brain begins to discharge, and emotions are the body's reaction to these energies. Many people's sudden outbursts of anger, breakdowns, or chronic internal conflicts are not necessarily due to the severity of the situation itself, but rather because they have never learned how to understand and manage their emotions. When discussing emotional outbursts, Hsieh Wen-hsien mentioned common incidents of outbursts of anger in society, such as someone suddenly exploding in anger simply because a shop assistant asked a few extra questions. Hung Shu-heng believes that this is usually related to a person's "original code," that is, the emotional patterns formed in childhood. How a person is treated by their parents from a young age, and whether their emotions are understood and accepted, will influence their reactions as adults. Some people may seem to have a bad temper, but they are simply using aggression to protect themselves. In a discussion about emotional drain, Brother Xian frankly admitted that he used to lose his temper directly when faced with provocative clients when he was younger, but now he is better able to control his emotions. He believes that many people are not incompetent, but rather are consumed by their emotions over a long period. Hong Shuheng shared that what truly causes pain is often not the event itself, but rather the event that evokes past experiences of being "humiliated," "ignored," or "unappreciated," thus causing emotions to cycle and amplify. The program also mentioned an important concept from the book: "expanding emotional power." Hong Shuheng shared that the author proposes a counterintuitive idea: when people feel pain, sometimes they should choose "a higher level of pain." She used weight training as an example: people are willing to increase the weight again and again not because it doesn't hurt, but because they know they want to become stronger. Similarly, this applies to relationships; compared to long-term resentment and suppression, sometimes honest communication, although more uncomfortable, can bring about real change. When discussing highly sensitive personalities, Hung Shu-heng frankly admitted that she wasn't actually highly sensitive, even a bit carefree, which often led her to unintentionally step on other people's emotional landmines in the past. However, she gradually came to understand that behind every emotion lies a certain need. Highly sensitive people may need more security and understanding, while more easygoing people need to learn to be more sensitive and perceptive. Later in the program, Hung Shu-heng shared the story of a foreign company executive she had counseled. This executive was highly successful but extremely emotional, resulting in a high turnover rate among team members. Further investigation revealed that she grew up in a single-parent family, and her mother often told her, "If it weren't for you, my life would be better." This instilled in her a strong belief from a young age that she had to be more successful than others to prove her worth. While she appeared to be a strong manager, she was actually constantly battling the insecurities of her childhood. At the end of the program, the two discussed that maturity isn't about having no emotions, but about understanding them. Hung Shu-heng also mentioned that the most energy-consuming thing for people isn't getting angry, but suppressing and avoiding emotions. Many people believe that suppressing their emotions demonstrates maturity, but in the long run, this can actually lead to internal conflict and a loss of strength. "Emotions Make You Stronger" reminds us that emotions are not the enemy, but rather a signal. What truly matters is not eliminating emotions, but understanding the underlying needs behind them. When people are willing to confront their pain and past, they have the opportunity to reset their emotional patterns, gradually transforming internal conflict into strength.