Hätten wir früher geheiratet, wäre es den Bach runtergegangen | Sag's nicht Mama #5

How do you actually find the right partner? In this episode, Lydia and Bene talk honestly about how they found their partners, what went wrong, and what they would do differently today. They discuss the phrase "Wait for Mr. Right" and why it's problematic. They talk about a diary written when Lydia was 12 and secretly read by her older brother. They discuss dating apps and trying to speed up God's plan. And they address the sentence that still haunts Lydia: "If we had married earlier, it would have been a disaster." No guide, no formula. Two siblings sharing what they've learned. If this topic is on your mind right now, write to us; we'll pray with you. 🤍 Follow us: Instagram: @sagsnichtmama · @lydiaschuheida · @its.bene.k CHAPTERS 0:00 Intro 0:13 Welcome to Episode 5 0:34 Today's topic: Choosing a partner 1:40 Lydia: I've only had one partner in my life 2:17 Why choosing a partner determines your entire life 2:48 Why a religious partner was non-negotiable for Lydia 4:29 "Wait for the right one" and why this statement is problematic 5:51 The diary at age 12 and how Bene read it 9:01 Bene's side: the brother with whom things didn't move so quickly 13:53 Red flags: what you should really pay attention to 15:08 Dating apps: when Bene wanted to speed up God's plan 17:16 Tinder and Christian dating sites 18:44 Get out there: church, retreats, new circles 21:03 The church is a hospital, not just a place for saints 22:15 "If we had married earlier, it would have gone downhill" 24:32 Please don't say: "God told me you're my wife" 27:46 Be the partner you want 28:11 Talk about where you want to go in life 30:37 "Do you want to change the world with me?" 32:42 Ask parents and friends: the outside perspective 35:34 Conflict resolution: what Lydia learned from her mom and dad 37:28 Take a marriage preparation course 40:15 Conclusion: God writes a unique story with everyone 41:29 Prayer