Navigating Modern Dating with Logan Ury | Being Well Podcast

We’ve spent a lot of time on the podcast exploring how we can improve our skills in romantic relationships, but for many people, one of the most difficult parts of a relationship is getting into one in the first place. On this episode, I talk with Logan Ury to discuss the mechanics of dating. We explore chemistry, romance, apps, and how to reframe our self-limiting tendencies so we can find love that is fulfilling and brings out the best in us. About our Guest: Logan Ury is a behavioral scientist turned dating coach, and the author of  How to Not Die Alone: The Surprising Science That Will Help You Find Love. She is the Director of Relationship Science at the dating app Hinge, and former head of Google’s behavioral science team the Irrational Lab. Key Topics: 0:00 Introduction 1:30 Why is modern dating so hard? 4:10 Romanticism 6:20 Being in relationship for self-actualization 8:25 Romanticizers, Maximizers, and Hesitators 12:10 Reframes for the Romanticizer 14:00 What kind of shared qualities actually matter? 19:35 Reframes for the Maximizer 25:35 The tendency to externalize problems and avoid vulnerability 31:35 Reframes for the Hesitator 36:00 Information vs. emotion - appreciation for romance 40:05 Bids and turning towards 43:10 What other things do people tend to underestimate in relationships? 46:40 The aspect of you that is brought out by your partner 47:40 How to use apps in more effective ways 50:35 Recap Subscribe to Being Well on: Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast... Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/5d87ZU1... Who Am I: I'm Forrest, the co-author of Resilient (https://amzn.to/3iXLerD) and host of the Being Well Podcast (https://apple.co/38ufGG0). I'm making videos focused on simplifying psychology, mental health, and personal growth. You can follow me here: 🎤 https://apple.co/38ufGG0 🌍 https://www.forresthanson.com 📸   / f.hanson