Глубинное чувство вины. Самобичевание. Причины и влияние на жизнь невротической вины.

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Anxiety may decrease, but only partially and not for long. There are 2 types of guilt. Rational, in some sense healthy and normal. Irrational, neurotic. 1️⃣Rational guilt. In a certain sense and degree, guilt is necessary. Sociopaths do not feel guilt. I stepped on my grandmother's foot in the store. I feel guilty. I apologize. And in a couple of minutes I forget about the incident. Everyone makes mistakes. This is normal. This kind of guilt goes away if we do something to correct our mistake. 2️⃣Irrational guilt. There is a rush at work. And I have a vacation coming up. And everything is already booked. The boss asks to reschedule the vacation. I refuse. We come to a compromise that I will finish the work after the vacation. In the end, everything is fine. But a vague anxiety, awkwardness, a feeling of "something is wrong", doubts about the correctness of my actions haunt me. Irrational guilt has turned on. This is exactly the kind of guilt that disguises itself as anxiety. A person is worried, but deeper under this lies guilt that he does not feel, does not realize. He can work with anxiety for as long as he wants, but until he sees guilt behind it, there will be little sense. What is the danger of unconscious irrational guilt? Everything that is in the unconscious secretly controls our actions, choices and life. If there is a lot of unconscious, suppressed guilt, then a person imperceptibly engages in self-punishment - creates problems for himself. Irrational, unconscious guilt forms: 📍 The attitude "I am not worthy" (I am guilty). A person denies himself a better life. 📍 Hypercontrol. I will control everything, just so as not to be left guilty. 📍 Perfectionism. I will do everything perfectly, just so that no one blames me. 📍 Various fears - fear of mistakes, rejection, fear of refusing others (then I will become guilty), etc. 📍Dependence on other people's opinions. I will live as others want and consider normal, otherwise they will blame me. 📍Low self-esteem. I am guilty, and therefore bad. 📍Psychosomatics. Symptom as self-punishment. 📍Victim complex. Life as constant suffering in order to atone for guilt. It is clear that this is a trap. 📍Savior complex. I will save everyone, then I will definitely not be guilty. 📍Dependent relationships, with an abusive partner who constantly punishes. 📍Apathy, depressive states. 📍Inability to realize yourself, your talents and potential. 📍It is difficult to ask others for help. A person drags everything on himself. 📍Regrets about the past. I should have acted differently. How could I... 📍The "I get and lose" scenario. Guilt for success. Just created a business, but everything fell apart. And it has happened more than once. 📍Low income, money through hard work. 📍Unloved job. The more guilt, the less loved it is. 📍Aggressors, rivals, "toxic" people around who constantly "punish" - put spokes in wheels, criticize, devalue. 📍Unbearable loans. If you owe, you are guilty. 📍All types of addictions - from emotional to alcoholic. The list is not exhaustive. All this "goodness" makes a person live someone else's life, much worse than he could afford in the absence of guilt. Reasons 1️⃣Parentized children. The child had to grow up too early. Bearing an emotional burden beyond one's age. These children are more like little adults. 2️⃣Alcoholic parents, depressive, emotionally unstable, mentally destroyed, authoritarian. Continued in the video. 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