The Neurobiology of Thriving Relationships - Dr. Stan Tatkin

Dr Stan Tatkin is a clinician, researcher, teacher, and developer of the psychobiological approach to couples therapy, often referred to as PACT. He is assistant clinical professor in the family medicine department at the University of California. Dr Tatkin has authored numerous bestselling books on attachment and couples therapy, including: Wired for Love, Wired for Dating, In Each Other’s Care, and Your Brain on Love. In this conversation, we explore: — How human beings behave according to procedural memory most of the time and why this is important to understand in couples work — Why relationships can be so difficult for humans — The difference between a secure functioning relationship and secure attachment And more. You can learn more about Dr Tatkin’s work by visiting: thepactinstitute.com --- Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT, is a best-selling author, clinician, researcher, teacher, and developer of a Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy® (PACT). He has a clinical practice in Calabasas, CA, where he has specialized for the last 15 years in working with couples and individuals who wish to be in relationships. He and his wife, Tracey Boldemann-Tatkin, developed the PACT Institute to train clinicians to help challenging couples find secure-functioning relationships. He is the author of best-selling books We Do, Wired for Love, Wired for Dating and Love and War in Intimate Relationships, as well as the audio books Your Brain on Love and Relationship Rx. Dr. Tatkin also teaches family medicine residents at Kaiser Permanente, Woodland Hills, CA, and is an assistant clinical professor at the UCLA David Geffen School of Medicine, Department of Family Medicine. He travels throughout the United States and abroad with the PACT Institute teaching therapists how to help couples build secure-functioning relationships. --- Timestamps: 00:00 - Intro 00:34 - Codependency to Couple Dynamics 03:10 - Human Nature in Relationships 07:13 - Dopamine, Memory, and Connection 10:39 - Secure Functioning vs. Secure Attachment 13:54 - Building Thriving Relationships 20:02 - Addressing Divorce and Challenges 25:15 - Keys to Lasting Relationships 28:21 - Interdependence vs. Codependency 35:23 - Self-Regulation in Therapy 39:18 - Anchors, Islands, and Waves 52:47 - The Gratefulness Inventory 58:49 - Nikon Practice 1:01:28 - Dr. Tatkin’s Resources --- 3 Books Dr Stan Tatkin Recommends Every Therapist Should Read: — Handbook of Attachment: Theory, Research, and Clinical Applications - Jude Cassidy - https://amzn.to/4aIbYGJ — Lyons-Ruth, K., L. Dutra, M. R. Schuder, and I. Bianchi. 2006. "From Infant Attachment Disorganization to Adult Dissociation: Relational Adaptations or Traumatic Experiences?" Psychiatric Clinics of North America 29 (1): 63–86. - https://psycnet.apa.org/record/2006-0... — Schore, A. N. 2000. "Attachment and the regulation of the right brain." Attachment & Human Development 1 (2): 23–47. - https://www.allanschore.com/pdf/Schor...