从择偶标准谈到彩礼，谈到嫁妆，再谈到我爸，如果我只有18岁20岁，或许我没有反驳的勇气，但是我现在已经30岁了，活得明明白白，自己的事自己做主，因为太过独立，所以失去了被保护的资格，后来变得又倔

From mate selection criteria to bride price, to dowry, and then to my father, if I were only 18 or 20, perhaps I wouldn't have had the courage to argue. But I'm 30 now, living a clear-headed life, making my own decisions. Because I'm too independent, I've lost the right to be protected, and later I became stubborn.