The Patriarchy Playbook: The Lie Women Are Told ft. Amy McPhee Allebest

🌮 Want the post-show, uncut moments & full archive? Join us on Patreon:   / u85780932   What if the most damaging patriarchy isn't the kind that hates women — but the kind that calls them angels? ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ In this episode of Taco 'Bout It, Mykelti and Tony sit down with Amy McPhee Allebest — host of Breaking Down Patriarchy and Stanford- educated historian who spent years researching how patriarchal systems actually function — to talk about the difference between the patriarchy that hates women and the patriarchy that loves them too much. We cover: How "benevolent patriarchy" hides inside kindness, chivalry & religious devotion Why being called "an angel" might be the most disempowering compliment of all The Yale professor who said studying women was like "writing the history of dogs" The viral "Dear Mormon Man" essay — and what it reveals about gender flipping This one breaks down a system most of us have lived inside without ever naming . ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ 🌮 SUPPORT THE SHOW — Patreon We can only make Taco 'Bout It because of the people who back us directly. For the price of one taco a month, you get: Post-show conversations Early access to episodes Exclusive Patreon-only content with Mykelti Direct community access 👉   / u85780932   ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ FIND AMY MCPHEE ALLEBEST: Podcast: Breaking Down Patriarchy (all platforms) YouTube:    / @breakingdownpatriarchy   Instagram: @bdownpatriarchy Essay: "Dear Mormon Man" — search YouTube ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ ⏱ TIMESTAMPS 00:00 — Welcome Amy 01:30 — Moana, missions, & leaving the island 05:30 — Inside the temple: what women experience 13:00 — "In the name of the Mother, the Daughter…" 20:00 — Where patriarchy actually started 24:00 — Benevolent patriarchy vs. virulent patriarchy 28:00 — "Cute talk" and the infantilization trap 32:00 — What men can actually do 39:00 — The viral "Dear Mormon Man" essay 43:00 — Gerda Lerner & the women history forgot 47:00 — Rapid fire 59:00 — Mykelti's own story 1:02:00 — Closing ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ FOLLOW MYKELTI: Instagram: @mykeltip TikTok: @mykeltipadron FOLLOW TONY: Instagram: @tonychessnut TikTok: @tonychessnut12 ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ ABOUT TACO 'BOUT IT: Hosted by Mykelti Brown Padron and Tony Padron, Taco 'Bout It is a podcast at the intersection of tacos, tea, and trauma. We sit down with people whose stories challenge what we were taught about religion, family, patriarchy, trauma, and everything in between. ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ ⚠️ Disclaimer: This podcast features personal stories and perspectives. Views expressed by guests are their own and don't necessarily reflect the views of the hosts. Topics may be sensitive — please prioritize your mental health. Not medical, legal, or therapeutic advice. #TacoBoutIt #MykeltiBrown #AmyMcPheeAllebest #BreakingDownPatriarchy #BenevolentPatriarchy #SisterWives #ExMormon #Patriarchy #ReligiousTrauma #Podcast