Dad Has an Invisible Load Too: Richard on Twins, Tech, Dinner & 3 Kids Who Actually Talk to You

This week on The Parent Playbook, Nyah sits down with Richard Cummins — adtech professional, startup advisor, podcast host, North Londoner and father of three: twin daughters and a son. And yes, the twins came first. Richard brings a perspective to this podcast that does not come around often enough — the honest, reflective, self-aware male voice in the parenting conversation. Not the Instagram version. The real one. The one that admits to blocking his calendar between 3 and 3:30 to do the school run, the one that talks about his father coming home at 8pm and his own version of showing up completely differently, the one that says directly and without apology that dads have their own version of the invisible load — a silent pressure to lead, provide, be the man of the house — and that it does not get talked about nearly enough. They get into what three months of paternity leave at Google actually gave him — the full immersion, the four hands on deck, the realisation that nothing in corporate life comes close to what happens inside a home with newborn twins. The conversations they have around the dinner table now that his girls are eight, asking about his presentations, engaging with his work, becoming the kind of children who talk to their parents because their parents have always talked to them. The origami phase. The Duolingo streaks. Teaching his son to read sheet music from an iPad in two weeks when it took Richard years. They talk about the 11+ without the panic — what it actually tests, why reasoning and articulation matter more than cramming, and why neither of them is putting their child through the pressure of feeling like their whole future rides on one test at age ten. About money conversations at the dinner table the way Black families have always had them — and what it means that the next generation is growing up in rooms where the right words for those conversations already exist. Richard also gets into the invisible load as a man — why it is a different kind of weight, why men are less likely to talk about it, what it costs when you do not, and why both parents having their outlet is not a luxury but a requirement. This one goes deep, goes wide and finishes warm. ⭐️ Follow Richard Cummins: ⃗‣ Instagram -   / futrincluded   ‣ TikTok -   / futrincluded   ‣ YouTube -     / @futrincluded   💜 Join our Journey! ‣ Instagram -   / trybeuk   ‣ TikTok -   / trybeuk   ‣ Website - https://www.trybe.uk/ 📍Episode Chapters 00:00 Welcome to The Parent Playbook — introducing Richard Cummins 02:03 Twins first — no shock but a lot to handle, and why coming first means you know no different 03:38 Three months paternity leave at Google — full immersion and the lockdown bonus years 06:26 Juggling everything — doing what you enjoy and picking your moments 07:39 Who stays home when a kid is sick — splitting responsibilities with Jade 10:00 The generational shift — from dad home at 8pm to blocking off the school run 12:59 Communication as the glue — shared calendars and no last-minute surprises 14:51 Moving back to North London for the village, and thoughts on the 11+ without the pressure 20:03 Dinner table conversations — giving kids exposure to work and business early 23:58 Cash still king — the vintage page hustle and teaching kids to handle real money 29:11 Kizzy's Question — Sunday parks, bike rides and the basics that stick 30:36 Advice for the young parent trying to build something on the side 35:07 Why the minutes count more as a parent, and the bias female founders face 38:00 The invisible load for dads — the silent pressure to provide, and why every parent needs an outlet 42:44 Wrap-up — where to find Richard