Rebuilding Trust After Betrayal w/ Joanna and Matthew Raabsmith

Send Me Questions on Attachment (https://www.buzzsprout.com/350183/fan...) A secret doesn’t stay small for long. When one partner is hiding pornography use or sexual addiction, the damage shows up everywhere: emotional distance, confusion, defensiveness, and that aching sense that you’re married to someone you can’t fully reach. We wanted to name that reality clearly and still hold out real hope, so we invited Matthew and Joanna Raabsmith to share their story of betrayal, disclosure, and the long road back to connection. Matthew and Joanna talk candidly about what kept them stuck for years, what finally brought the truth into the open, and why the betrayed partner often feels a storm of anger, fear, grief, relief, and even hope at the same time. We dig into betrayal trauma, why “just trust me” doesn’t work, and how recovery has to include more than willpower. They explain the concrete supports that helped them rebuild, including weekly therapy, 12-step community, and the kind of honesty that doesn’t depend on getting a good reaction. We also unpack their practical framework for rebuilding intimacy, what they call the intimacy pyramid: honesty first, then safety, then trust, then vulnerability, then intimacy. You’ll hear why reliability and predictability matter so much, how everyday conflict becomes a chance to practice rupture and repair, and why the goal can’t be forcing your partner to trust you again, it has to be becoming genuinely trustworthy. We close with small daily habits that compound into real change, plus resources from the Rab Smith Team, including their book Building True Intimacy and a free couple check-in. If this helped, subscribe, share it with someone who needs hope, and leave a review so more couples can find tools for healing and secure attachment. Support the show (https://cash.app/$landaboys) FOLLOW ME ON INSTAGRAM: @godattachmenthealing (  / godattachmenthealing  ) FOLLOW ME ON FACEBOOK: God Attachment Healing (  / samlanda23  ) MY HOPE FOR YOU I hope these episodes bring you closer to Christ and encourage you in your walk with Him.  ABOUT ME 👇 I have been a Christ-follower for the last 20+ years of my life, and have seen the Lord's grace, strength, and faithfulness through it all. He led me to pursue a degree in higher education and has given me a gift for the field of counseling.