Dark Triad, Romantic Partner Selection, and Dating Advice w/ Rob Henderson

Today on Upstream, Erik Torenberg interviews author Rob Henderson about modern romance, discussing evolutionary psychology, the attraction to dark triad men, dating apps, and practical advice for men seeking romantic partners. — 📰 Be notified early when Turpentine's drops new publication: https://www.turpentine.co/exclusiveac... 🙏 Help shape our show by taking our quick listener survey at https://bit.ly/TurpentinePulse — SPONSORS: ☁️ Oracle Cloud Infrastructure (OCI) is a single platform for your infrastructure, database, application development, and AI needs. OCI has four to eight times the bandwidth of other clouds and offers one consistent price. Oracle is offering to cut your cloud bill in half. See if your company qualifies at https://oracle.com/turpentine 🎯 Say goodbye to the headaches of out-of-home advertising. AdQuick combines technology, OOH expertise, and data to enable efficient, seamless ad buying across the globe. Visit https://adquick.com/ to start reaching your customers in the real world. 💥 Head to Squad to access global engineering without the headache and at a fraction of the cost: head to https://choosesquad.com/ and mention “Turpentine” to skip the waitlist. — LINKS: Why (Some) Women are Attracted to Violent Men: https://www.robkhenderson.com/p/why-s...  How to Choose a Romantic Partner: https://www.robkhenderson.com/p/how-t... Richard Wrangham’s The Goodness Paradox: https://www.amazon.com/Goodness-Parad... Frans de Waal’s writings:   / 112082.frans_de_waal   David Gilmore’s Manhood in the Making: https://www.amazon.com/Manhood-Making... Neil Strauss’ The Game (Pickup Artists): https://www.amazon.com/Game-Penetrati... The Social Dimension of Sex: https://www.amazon.com/Social-Dimensi... — X / TWITTER: @robkhenderson @eriktorenberg @turpentinemedia — TIMESTAMPS: (00:00) Intro (00:36) Rob Henderson's journey into evolutionary psychology (02:55) The dark triad and modern romance (05:22) Evolutionary roots of attraction to violent men (10:13) Cultural reflections on attraction and status (13:18) Sponsors: oracle | Adquick (15:17) The rise and fall of pickup artist culture (23:45) Choosing the right romantic partner (29:31) Assortative mating and personality traits (30:33) Sponsor: Squad (31:41) Improving mating value: practical advice (32:17) The importance of physical appearance and grooming (33:35) Education and career success (34:17) Creating a comfortable living space (35:05) The role of looks, money, and status (35:54) The pickup artist culture shift (39:39) Age gap relationships and their dynamics (42:51) The incel community and its challenges (45:15) The struggle for social and romantic success (51:37) Advice for young men on building relationships (53:44) The future of male influencers (55:48) The role of vulnerability in attraction (58:35) The need for guidance in modern romance (01:00:57) Wrap