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In this video, Hatice Kübra Tongar offers step-by-step guidance to parents whose children are crying over toys and throwing tantrums. Using a shopping mall scene, she explains the neuropsychological basis of preschool children's outbursts of anger and how parents should respond. In response to the question, "How can we calm a child experiencing emotional overflow?", she shares her four-step calming strategy: In this video: • What causes emotional outbursts? (What is amygdala highjack?) • How does anger work in a child's brain, and how does it differ from an adult's brain? • The 3 most common parental mistakes (yelling, threatening, giving in) • The Right Strategy in 4 Steps:  1️⃣ Self-regulate (parent calms down first)  2️⃣ Name the emotion (“You’re upset, I know”)  3️⃣ Set a compassionate boundary (“We’re not picking up today, let’s take a picture”)  4️⃣ Don’t leave the child alone; establish appropriate contact With this method, the child learns to regulate their emotions rather than suppress them. As the parent remains calm, the child learns to calm down by modeling it over time. 👉 Share your own experience in the comments so it can serve as a guide for other parents. 👉 If you liked the video, don’t forget to like it, subscribe, and turn on notifications. For all of Hatice Kübra Tongar’s books, visit haticekubratongarkitaplari.com. (Ad) 00:00 – Beginning 00:25 – Introduction 01:10 – The neuroscientific explanation of a child's emotional outburst 03:00 – What is an "amygdala highjack"? How does a child's brain work? 05:00 – A parent's first mistake: Yelling 07:00 – Second mistake: Threats and punishment 09:00 – Third mistake: Giving her what she wants when she cries 11:00 – The right strategy in 4 steps  11:15 – Step 1: Self-regulate  13:00 – Step 2: Name the emotion  15:00 – Step 3: Set compassionate boundaries  17:30 – Step 4: Don't isolate, establish contact 19:30 – What should a post-crisis conversation look like? 20:50 – The child's process of learning to calm down 21:00 – Closing and message