Tell Me More: Four Words to Defuse An Angry Person

When someone you love is coming at you with everything they've got, your instinct to defend yourself is the exact thing that makes it worse. This episode walks through what actually happens when a man chooses curiosity over self-protection in the middle of another person's emotional storm. 🔗 More on authentic masculinity: https://sethtroutt.com Big emotions are not threats. They're data. They tell you what someone loves and what feels under attack. Proverbs 20:5 says the purposes of a man's heart are like deep water, and a man of understanding draws them out. Most men never draw anything out because they're too busy building a defense while the other person is still talking. This episode breaks down a different approach: how to set aside your own narrative, inhabit theirs, say it back, and watch what happens when someone finally feels understood. Whether it's your wife, your coworker, or your friend, the move that feels the most counterintuitive is the one that actually brings the temperature down and the connection up. 0:00 — Why other people's big emotions feel like a threat 0:46 — What emotions actually are (concern-based construals) 1:24 — Choosing sympathy over self-defense 2:41 — Proverbs 20:5 and drawing out deep water 3:06 — How to get curious instead of defensive 4:07 — Understanding their narrative before offering yours 5:32 — Asking permission to add your context 6:26 — Why big emotions are data, not danger 7:50 — "Tell me more" — the phrase that changes everything 📕 Grab the book — Authentic Masculinity: https://sethtroutt.com Subscribe for weekly Christ-centered Christ-centered content on what it means to be the man God designed you to be. #AuthenticMasculinity #MenAndEmotions #BiblicalManhood