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Session channel:    / @cortespsicologosemsaopaulo   Information regarding prices and times for online or in-person psychotherapy: WhatsApp 11 99787-4512 http://www.marisapsicologa.com.br/hor... In-person service: Rua Bela Cintra, 968 (near Av Paulista - Consolação Metro and Paulista Metro) Subscribe to this channel http://goo.gl/32B3B6 Become a member of the channel club:    / @psicólogosemsãopaulo   Free E-books http://www.marisapsicologa.com.br/mat... E-books already published TOC Obsessive Compulsive Disorder. Personality Disorders. Depression. Psychological Treatments. Anxiety. Panic. ADHD Attention Deficit. Hypochondria. Schizophrenia. Anorexia. Obesity. Agoraphobia. Treatment for Alcoholism. Self-Esteem. Childhood Anxiety. Shyness. Bournot. Premature Ejaculation. Overcoming the Pain of Separation. How to Maintain Sanity in Quarantine. Insomnia. Abandonment Neurosis. Borderline. Join the Telegram group: https://t.me/PsicologosemSP Marisa de Abreu Psychologist CRP 06/29493 _________________________________________ Lies “Lies that ruin a person’s life” In some situations, there are people who do not want to believe that they are in front of a liar, they want it to be true so much that they miss the signs that always appear. Usually, when there is emotional involvement, the perspicacity to detect lies disappears. When it comes to loved ones, people we trust, people we admire, family members, romantic relationships, it can be more difficult to identify a lie, because we have a large set of feelings that cloud our vision. What makes a person a liar? Believe it or not, there are many liars who believe they are victims. They use internal arguments and convince themselves that the world is being unfair to them, so there is nothing fairer than lying to the world, because otherwise they would not have the things they believe they deserve. Some lie to obtain advantages, privileges, goods or admiration that they would not have if they told the truth. Others lie because they need to live in a parallel universe that is much better than the real one, they do not accept their lives, they cannot deal with their lives the way they were presented, so, perhaps out of weakness, instead of trying to fix or accept what they have, they try to convince others that they are better than that. By convincing at least one person, you end up convincing yourself. You use the other person as an ego massager that helps you feel good about the miserable life you live. The traumas that can remain in the person who has been deceived can be devastating. They can spend the rest of their life in a state of alert, distrusting everyone, not getting close to anyone, not opening up, or feeling afraid of everyone. They can even become aggressive with those who come into their life after the trauma, making relationships at work, in their personal life, difficult. After you realize that someone has lied for the first time, the rest of your relationship with that person becomes unclear. You don't know the limit of possible lies, nor how many, nor how serious they are. It ends the perception of and expectation of the future because we build our perception of people based on what we know about them. If we see someone returning change that they received in excess, our concept of that person is based on an honest attitude. If we catch them keeping the change, being dishonest, the floor opens up, anything is possible, any dishonesty can happen at any time. How do we know when the end point is in taking advantage dishonestly? Can someone lie just once and never again? It may even be possible, but I consider it impossible for this to be identified by those who live with this person. Only they know how much, when and why they will stop lying. Is there forgiveness for someone who has lied? Would it be possible to believe the word of a person, who has already proven themselves capable of lying, that their promise not to lie again will be kept? Are there types of lies that deserve forgiveness? Perhaps the lie that the person told to preserve their life, in a robbery, kidnapping or something that puts them at real risk of death. Or the person who lied because they know that the truth will cause them enormous losses, for example if you do not report someone who committed illegal acts in the company because by reporting it your much-needed job would be threatened? Or the person whose lie does not harm anyone, but only makes other people admire them because it is the only thing they want. An insecure person can hide behind a character that is much more interesting than reality. A person traumatized by liars needs to reestablish trust in people, finding people who are truly trustworthy, or going to therapy.